Somedays kids just seem to get each other riled up, and with each passing moment they get louder and louder…and sometimes that makes a momma wanna snap! Here are 5 things I do in my home to help my kids calm down when they get loud and crazy.
There are two growing boys in my home and they love to play nicely together, usually.
Some day,s however, while they aren’t fighting with each other, they drive me up the wall with all their crazy…I’m sure you can relate.
From having a blast playing video games together to playing pretend superheroes in their bedroom, or better yet, running wild outside, they have their fun and excitement. I love it when they play together, it’s one of my favourite things to see as a parent.
It is so important to let children play and use their imaginations, but sometimes, them kids gotta settle down.
These are things that I do in my home when I feel like I’m going to lose it on the kids.
How To Get Loud And Hyper Children Under Control
The best thing you can do to get your hyper kids into a calm and controlled state is to get down to their level and make eye contact, to make sure they are listening to what you have to say. Ensure you are using your strict but not angry tone of voice so this discipline can remain positive. Set your consequence up when they are paying attention to what you are saying, so they cannot use the excuse “I didn’t hear you say that!” when you put the consequence into action.
Once you have implemented those basic strategies, you can go ahead and try these techniques to create a calm and peaceful environment in your home.
When things get wild and crazy, it may be time to try doing a calm activity together, and reading is one of my favourite calm down practices.
If I can’t read with them because I need to take care of the baby or do something else that is urgent in the home, then I’ll instruct them to read on their own for 20 minutes. Sometimes I can even convince my 7-year-old to read my 4-year-old a book aloud.
If they simply do not feel like reading, that’s ok! Looking at a book, or just sitting down quietly is also very good. Sometimes they whine, but you can ignore it and get on with what you need to do.
Help Momma Out
Sometimes, when I need help getting things done and I notice that the kids have extra energy.. I use that to my advantage and recruit them to help me out around the home.
Instead of yelling and lashing out at them for being loud, it’s simple to redirect them into helping me out with gentle words. It’s kind of like tricking them into doing chores, but hey, things need to get done and everyone needs to help with family contributions.
I usually say “Mommy needs to sweep the floors and tidy the shoe closet before daddy gets home but I wont have time because I’ve gotta start dinner… can you help?”
Not very often am I met with a groan or a “no”…the kids are super happy to help out.
I often praise them when they give me a good attitude and a positive response, which helps them make the decision to help next time too.
Engage In Conversation
Sometimes when the kids get loud, I like to redirect them into a calm conversation.
This works well to calm them down because it redirects the silly behavior and engages thoughtful responses. This attention to conversation always drops the noise level at our home.
My last resort when nothing else works is allowing the kids to have alone time in their room. It’s not a time out, because they aren’t in trouble, it’s simply a chance to get centred and have time to self regulate and calm down.
I don’t use this practice often, its a last resort measure that I like to use in place of boiling over nd yelling at my sweet boys.
Calm Down And Play On
These are ways I can get my kids calm down when they get a little wild and crazy at home.
The important thing to remember is that kids will be kids. They will get loud, crazy and hyper. We shouldn’t punish them for this typical kid behaviour, but work with it and teach them how to regulate themselves in the chaos.