Attempting to control, argue with, or quit dominating children simply worsens the situation. The more authority you try to exert, the more obstinate your controlling child becomes, and the power struggle is full-steam ahead. It’s a never-ending downward spiral. There is a missing component.When children bury their heads in all of these controlling or strong-willed behaviours, they feel helpless. Unless […]
The punching and infantile rage appeared to appear out of nowhere. It started with the toddler biting, and then it progressed to the toddler hitting. I can tell you that I’ve seen it everything with both of my children: hitting, kicking, biting, and spitting. I understand your aggravation, no matter what toddler behaviour you’re dealing with. Trying to dissuade a […]
It’s difficult to raise a strong-willed child. You believe there is nothing you can do to transform your rebellious or feisty youngster into a pleasantly obedient little person. You are embarrassed by the bystanders and wonder if your child is the only one who is prone to power struggles. It’s exhausting, and you may be feeling like an angry mother […]
I used to consider my child a bitter loser. I can’t tell you how many times my five-year-old has thrown a fit, including throwing dice and other game pieces all over the floor and yelling for a long time after losing a game. I know how to read his expression when he realizes the game isn’t going as planned, and […]
It is attachment, not attention, that drives attention seeking behaviour.Humans are built to protect themselves from the loss of attachment. This is how you can help your child break the cycle of bad conduct. We prefer to think about attachments in terms of people, but we can attach to items, places, hobbies, and other things as well. Because they are […]
We ask our children to apologize and say sorry far too often. But how many times do they say they’re sorry? How many times do they say it with sincerity? And even if they do, what is the point? This is the true essence of apologizing, and what we should instead teach our children. Should children be taught to apologize? […]
As parents, we are right there with our children in their joy and happiness, but also in their sadness, loss, and agony. Here’s what we can do to truly assist our children in dealing with difficult emotions. I seem to come across the phrases “bad feelings” and “good feelings” everywhere I go, whether online or in person. And I believe […]
Irrational behaviour (or the lack thereof) is a major parenting challenge no matter how old your child is. This is How Positive Parenting Can Help Your Child Develop Impulse Control. They could be too quick to punch a sibling, overly demanding on something happening RIGHT NOW, and keep asking for the same thing even after you’ve told them it can’t […]
Isn’t it true that if shouting worked, parenting would be simple? We’d just yell, “Do it!” and our kids would follow suit. But here’s the truth: shouting isn’t effective. “When you yell, you become your childrens emotional equal.” Personally, I feel that parents shout at their children because they have exhausted all other options for resolving the issue. Instead, they […]
Do your children continually irritate you? It feels like they’re just trying to get under your skin by testing you at every step and purposefully misbehaving. It may even feel as though they only pay attention when you shout. First and foremost, I want you to understand that none of us has inexhaustible patience. We all get irritated and lose […]
When we label our children bossy, we’re doing the same thing we do every time we use an adjective to characterize a person: we’re reducing the entire experience of life to a single word that doesn’t reflect anything other than the present instant. When we label children, we overlook the most essential element of the adjective we used, which is […]
We frequently fix our children’s behaviour by making them feel terrible (shaming, punishment (fear conditioning)s, time outs), yet this is ineffective in the long term. Here’s what actually works. Until our children are around a year old, everything of our contact with them is focused on meeting our mutual desire for connection, because, let’s face it, it isn’t much else. […]
Children are like little sponges soaking up everything they see and hear around them. They learn from the people they love most, what to eat, how to act in social situations, and more. As parents, one of our jobs is to protect them from adult issues that may not be appropriate for their age group. A new trend has been […]
Many parents try to modify their childrens bad behaviour with logical consequences, but they are useless. Here’s why, how to figure out when punishment (fear conditioning) would be successful, and seven other parenting techniques that frequently work better. For the past hour, your daughter has been playing with Lego blocks. You like how engrossed she is in this pastime, but […]
Temper outbursts in toddlers are one of the most difficult aspects of parenting. Is it natural for your child to have tantrums, or are they an indication of something else? My son’s frequent tantrums made me angry and want to tear my hair out when he was a toddler. On most days, I couldn’t see how anyone could desire more […]
Welcome to my little corner of the internet! I am a mom of 3 and have a passion for helping children reach their human potential. I enjoy helping parents raise confident and healthy kids by explaining how to handle situations using positive parenting, with the knowledge I gathered from my year of psychology in College and other research from when I needed help with my kids. All things I write about are from personal experience, in hopes of relating with other struggling parents who are lost with child behaviour like I once was.
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Elizabeth
