Here are 5 things to remember if you’re emotionally drained and worn out, mama. This is for exhausted moms, furious moms, and moms in the middle.
I recall the day I had an anxiety attack… the anxiety attack that alerted me to the fact that something was wrong.
I had two toddlers at the time and was expecting another. Hormones were surging, I was exhausted, and there were dishes to be washed.
I was shivering in my bed because of a mountain of dishes.
I lay there for a few minutes, thinking about how much I despised those dishes. I really didn’t want to wash them. I’d have to wash them or have a filthy kitchen, which would be nearly as unpleasant as having to wash the dishes.
Even if I do dishes quickly and it isn’t the most important thing in life… I was so emotionally exhausted that the prospect of doing anything else nearly sent me into a mental breakdown.
At the very least, I expected a nervous breakdown. Those, it appears, do not exist…
Remember these 5 things
There are times when we are so messed up that we don’t know if we can carry on. Here’s what to remember when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
Listen To Your gut
When you’re feeling down, it might be difficult to figure out what’s going on in your thoughts. Prayers become confused, thoughts run, you experience calm, then panic, then peace, then panic.
You can’t make a decision without second-guessing yourself, and you’re clearly Past The Point.
During this moment, the idea is to strive to hold on to whatever tranquilly you have. You must relearn how to trust your instincts.
When you pray and ask God for guidance, you must learn to seek out and accept peace. It may seem unattainable, but understanding your own thoughts and feelings is critical.
Decline and Say No If You Need To
If you’re emotionally exhausted, you’re probably burning the candle at both ends.
This could be because you work both outside and inside the home, you’re up all night with your baby, you’re dealing with health concerns, or your life is simply stressful and busy. Or it might be all of the above.
When we’re feeling down, one of the best things we mothers can do is learn to say no.
Guilt, the “need to be needed,” or a critical attitude do not have to be our masters. We can starve them to death. We don’t have to do everything we’ve always done for everyone. Simply put, we don’t.
It is not loving to drive oneself into the ground doing things for your spouse or family that they are capable of doing for themselves. You were not called to martyr yourself for your mate or your children by the Bible, God, or anybody else. You may aid them while also loving them and allowing them to take care of their own obligations.
I recently took part in a challenge and was struck by one of the activities she assigned in the second lesson. We were encouraged to think about things that drained us and things that brought us vitality.
I was astounded to see that my day was practically fully consumed by draining activities. The draining things took up so much time that I scarcely had time (or took the time) for the life-giving things.
These are not necessarily significant events. But, whether they are easy or difficult, we must include certain activities in our days that refresh us so that we may love and serve our family as we wish. These could include:
- reading a book
- taking a shower
- reading the Bible
- doing our hair, makeup, looking nice, etc.
- chatting with a friend
- playing a game with our children
- writing in a journal
I believe that examining our circumstances is vital. When we’re fully overloaded and exhausted, it’s easy to forget how we got there. It’s not always evident.
Pregnancy, for example, might make you feel as if you’re going insane. Moving, for example, is such a stressful event that you may quickly become overwhelmed by all of the adjustments and decisions that must be made.
My spouse and I have recently observed that our children are acting strangely. We’ve determined that we need to tighten up a little and get their behaviour back on track.
We don’t want to be overbearing parents, but when the majority of the day is spent opposing attitudes, it’s time to make a change.
Having unruly children is exhausting, and you’ll be glad you took the extra time to establish appropriate consequences for disobedience.
Asking For Help Is Ok
If you want to crack it. Be truthful and seek assistance.
If you believe you cannot continue. Be truthful and seek assistance.
If you believe you are a nasty person and don’t know what to do. Be truthful and seek assistance.
Call your pastor, a friend, a family member, a helpline, or a stranger on an internet forum… Whatever you do, do not attempt to do it alone.
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