Help Your Child With School Challenges
At school, Henry had a bad day. He walks in, slams his suitcase on the floor, and starts telling you about what occurred.
“In my class, there’s a new boy…and he was seated right next to me beside the teacher! During algebra, the new boy stole my pencil, hit my arm 100 times, and was swearing at another kid!”
You can probably imagine how aggravating it must have been. But then he goes on…
“And the teacher did nothing!” exclaims the student. I attempted to grab her attention, but she seemed completely uninterested (uninvolved)! She simply turned her back on me!”
You’ve been enraged. How dare the instructor not step in and help!
Within minutes, you’ve sent an email to the teacher, expressing your dissatisfaction with her.
It’s not always simple to figure out how to deal with academic problems. It might be a disagreement with a peer, a low project grade, or a detention slip.
When something appears to be unjust, some parents have a tendency to…overreact.
They promptly contact the teacher on the phone. They go to the principal’s office for a meeting. They contact the parents of the other pupil.
It appears to be the most effective approach to get your child out of a difficult circumstance.
Regrettably, it excludes your child from the equation. It conveys the message, “This is too large for you; you need mom to do it for you,” rather than teaching them to handle the problem differently next time.
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Help Your Child Handle School Challenges
Your willingness to engage your kid in a problem-solving dialogue is one of the most effective weapons in your parenting toolkit. Working together to solve an issue allows your kid to develop critical thinking skills and come up with alternative solutions.
Pay attention and sympathize.
Allow your child to rant for a few minutes. Don’t get in the way of their cries of “It’s not fair!” “It wasn’t my fault!” or “I didn’t do it” Find a way to remark, “Yeah, it seemed unjust” or “Wow, that must have been frustrating!” if feasible.
Don’t point the finger at anyone.
Make a chronology of occurrences without passing judgment on your kid, teacher, or peers. What happened initially, what happened next, and how did they react? Is there anything you’re missing?
Expect it to happen again.
Prepare for the worst-case scenario. No parent wants to put their child in a terrible position again, but chances are, your child could be in one in the future.
Look into the possibilities.
Consider how your child can respond, who he or she may talk to, and when to seek more assistance. Then have a role-playing session with your group, utilizing various scenarios and perspectives.
When should you intervene?
If you believe someone’s safety is in jeopardy, act quickly. If your child has attempted to resolve the issue but nothing has changed or the situation is worsening, it could be time to intervene.
Repetition of the preceding procedures with school personnel is recommended.
When dealing with teachers or principals, maintain a collaborative approach. If it’s appropriate, include your child in brainstorming sessions.
Put The Plan Into Place
Henry and his parents discussed his problems at school with the new guy. They devised a step-by-step strategy for him to follow in the event that the other boy’s behaviour harmed him, his personal space, or his things. They discussed the role of education personnel and how they might help.
The new guy continued to struggle in class, but Henry felt more at ease knowing he had a strategy.
And, best of all, he didn’t need his parents to help him solve the problem!
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