How To Find The Positive In Your Parenting
You shout excessively.
You’re always worried.
You’re too weary to resist it, yet you want everyone to sleep in their own bed.
When it comes to making adjustments to your parenting, it’s easy to discover areas where you can improve (growth mindset).
However, there are several items that do not require repair.
Your pancakes are lopsided. The funny tunes that can cheer up your children. How you’re always 10 minutes early at the bus stop, just in case.
These are the qualities that make you unique! Your children may never remark or admit that these things matter, but they are the things that make you unique! These are the characteristics that distinguish you from other parents.
It’s what distinguishes you as a unique individual.
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Find The Positives
What makes you happy when you reflect on the last year? What are your successes, objectives you’ve met, and decisions you’ve made for the betterment of yourself, your children, your marriage, or your family?
This isn’t about being flawless. It’s all about figuring out what you want to keep doing. These are the things you want to keep trying for, objectives you’d like to reach or complete, even if you haven’t mastered them yet.
Here are several examples:
- Instead of utilizing time-out, I started using time-in.
- My husband and I had a monthly date night.
- Most mornings, I greeted my children with a grin.
- Helped with schoolwork but didn’t get in the way.
- With my child, I read a lot of books.
- More meals were prepared at home.
What Are You Working On?
This appears to be our primary emphasis. I’m sure you can think of a million ways to improve (growth mindset), things you’d want to do differently, and goals you’d like to achieve.
Rather than making a large list of unrealistic goals for yourself, choose one or two areas in which you’d want to “improve (growth mindset)” this year. Make a very precise objective for yourself, including any measures you’ll need to take to achieve it.
Here are several examples:
- Every night before going to bed, clean the kitchen counter.
- When your spouse gets home from work, give him a kiss.
- Every night between 5 and 7 p.m., put your phone away.
- One time a month, have a family game night.
- When I start lecturing my children, I have to stop myself.
- Every day, say something good about each child.
Embrace Your Journey
Make a list of what you want to preserve and what you want to expand and refer to it frequently. When life gets chaotic and everyone looks a little “off,” check over the lists to see where you might be missing.
Don’t get too wrapped up in the “grows” – especially if you’re under a lot of pressure to meet them!
Prioritize the positives. Find the things that make you, you; the things that make your children happy; the things that make you happy.
These are the things that your children will recall.
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- Easily get kids to listen – the FIRST time. No yelling or reminding…not even once!
- Put an end to daily power struggles. Bedtime became a breeze, and all the dawdling, chore wars, sibling rivalry, and mealtime meltdowns disappeared.
- Reduce backtalk by HALF! It’s simple once you know the secrets of these two ‘buckets.’
- Say goodbye to punishments that DON’T work. There’s a 5-step formula that works WAYYY better than time-outs.
- Feel amazing, confident, and empowered as a parent, every day. I NEVER go to bed feeling guilty anymore! (Okay, well maybe sometimes…’ mom guilt’ is still a thing.)
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