At times, being a stay-at-home parent might feel like being in the trenches. True, we are not always filled with joy and happiness. It can stink very awful at times. So, if you are a stay-at-home mom, here are some key things to ask yourself:
I’ve seen mothers who would give anything to be able to stay at home with their children.
And I’ve known mothers who believed they’d enjoy being stay-at-home moms but couldn’t make it work.
The goal is to accept where you are, what you are feeling, and to move on from there.
Questions To Ask Yourself
Do You Use Routines?
There is so much to be said about a good routine. In truth, a decent routine (whether you call it that or not) is the key to a pleasant home environment. It takes all of the routine tasks and streamlines them, making the days more predictable.
You are probably facing turmoil, attitudes, messiness, and other issues if you do not have a regular routine. It could be the reason a mother despises being a stay-at-home mother.
There’s nothing to worry about… Good routines can be easily incorporated into your lifestyle; however, choose routines that are appropriate for your lifestyle and parenting style.
Do You Practice Self Care?
Taking time for yourself is one of the most difficult aspects of being a stay-at-home mom. A mother may experience the following emotions at challenging times:
- not good enough
But listen to me, mommas… Taking care of yourself is worthwhile. And it pervades many aspects of life.
If you’ve been unhappy while staying at home with the kids, it’s possible that you’ve lost yourself in the sleepless hours, diapers, and years of housekeeping. I understand…
Find something you enjoy doing and do it. Accept this stage of life, but don’t let it take your identity or passions.
Self-care is essential in both the short and long term. Let me explain: how can you adequately care for the littles in your life if you aren’t taking care of yourself? And what will be left when they are grown and gone?
Take the time, energy, money, or whatever it takes to restore your joy. You’ve earned it.
Do You Fill Your Day With Important Tasks?
When I start to feel like staying at home is making me unhappy, I know it’s typically because I’m not loving what I’m doing.
I mean, it’s not that I don’t enjoy spending time with my children. It’s just that I haven’t made time for some of the excellent things. And that I’ve been fixated on the negatives rather than the benefits.
Carving excellence (good things) Time away from the week can be difficult at times, but if you’re a stay-at-home parent who feels like there’s no more fun in the world… it might be a nice place to start.
Do Your Kids Play Without You?
I instilled independence in all of my children from a young age. Why? Because my sanity was at stake.
Each of them can spend time quietly engaged in a pleasant task or book while I get some things done or enjoy some peace and quiet.
Do You Use A Gratitude Journal?
Gratitude extends beyond simply expressing “thank you” when given anything. Some even go so far as to argue it’s a life skill…
It’s a way of life for them.
Practicing gratitude (focused on the good things even when you’re sad) can assist a stay-at-home mom get through the tough times.
It’s one of those life talents that requires time and effort to master. The fact about appreciation is that it spreads.
So, as you begin to exhibit outward appreciation (even when you don’t feel like it), your children will gradually learn to act more appreciative as well.
Are Your Expectations Realistic?
You know the super mom who raises a slew of children, cooks home-cooked three-course meals every night, and still finds time to garden, attend PTO meetings, and coach every single sporting event?
She is, indeed, present. She is real. Stop making comparisons to her.
Setting unreasonable aspirations for ourselves as mothers can lead to heartbreak. I’m not suggesting give up on your dreams…
But what I mean is that you should set realistic goals and work with what you’ve got. Your children don’t care if you are powerful in their school or if you prepare the most home dinners of any mother you know.
Do you want to be at home?
If you despise being a stay-at-home mom, feel unhappy, furious, and your nerves are frazzled… Now is the time to be brutally honest with yourself.
Pray, think about it, and discuss it with your spouse. A stay-at-home mother is a blessing to her children… Unless she despises it and is sad.