Living & Parenting Without Violence
When most parents learn about my website, the first thing they say is, “We don’t spank our kids.” Violence, on the other hand, has a fairly broad definition. Authoritative parenting is a quite common parenting style and it doesn’t always include spanking or hitting kids. While rocks and stones may shatter our bones, fear, guilt, and humiliation moulds our spirits for years to come, and they are just as terrible.
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It’s difficult to understand since we’ve all been taught to use fear, guilt, and shame as coping mechanisms, and many of us consider them “normal” and even useful. But it isn’t the case. All of the habits we want to alter, as well as disputes and power struggles, alienation, and misunderstanding, are rooted in fear, guilt, and shame.
If we want to live a life of empathy, compassion, connection, and collaboration, these are the first techniques we should eliminate from our lives and parenting.
And this is precisely what I pass along to my readers. I teach them a style of thinking and speaking that encourages everyone around them to listen and collaborate. All things I learned From The Positive Parenting Solutions Parenting Course.
I show them how to form indestructible ties with their children that will endure a lifetime.
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- Easily get kids to listen – the FIRST time. No yelling or reminding…not even once!
- Put an end to daily power struggles. Bedtime became a breeze, and all the dawdling, chore wars, sibling rivalry, and mealtime meltdowns disappeared.
- Reduce backtalk by HALF! It’s simple once you know the secrets of these two ‘buckets.’
- Say goodbye to punishments that DON’T work. There’s a 5-step formula that works WAYYY better than time-outs.
- Feel amazing, confident, and empowered as a parent, every day. I NEVER go to bed feeling guilty anymore! (Okay, well maybe sometimes…’ mom guilt’ is still a thing.)
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