If you want your teenagers to pitch in, you must start teaching them to clean while they are little. This is how.
A new study was brought to my attention that deals with teenagers, cleaning, and the attitudes of the women who reared them about cleaning.
It may come as a complete and absolute surprise that this study showed that many teenagers… are lazy… and they despise cleaning… They also do not clean well.
Before you go Google how you can get paid to deliver such history-altering results, here’s where things get interesting.
97 percent of mothers polled said it is important for their teenagers to develop good household cleaning skills, but 70 percent said it is easier for them to clean themselves because their teenagers’ efforts are subpar, and 37 percent said their teenagers do such a bad job that they prefer to do it alone.
28 percent of the mothers asked said that people who do not clean up after themselves are the quality they despise the most, both socially and professionally.
Cleaning is therefore essential.
Teaching children to clean while they are young is crucial for several reasons:
It’s difficult to live in a dirty, messy house (and children are the ones who produce the majority of the mess), and if we don’t teach them, they’ll never learn that a little responsibility goes a long way.
I already let my two-year-old “help” me sweep, clean the table, and pick up her toys when she was two. I let her assist me with anything she could do securely.
Here are some general guidelines for training children to clean that you should keep in mind.
Teach Kids To Clean Young
The best approach to get your teenagers to clean efficiently is to start them when they are young, as young as two or three, because at this age, they love being near you and doing what you’re doing.
I always model after independent play time and then get them help putting the things away. When my 2-year-old witnessed her 10-month-old brother crawling away from a large Tupperware explosion on the kitchen floor, she cried.
“Oh no, put that back!” she shouted. I dashed into the kitchen to put everything away.
Maternal pride surged in my chest. Starting them young just means involving them in the cleaning process.
Some activities, such as those involving toxic chemicals, should be avoided when children are present. However, they can assist you in wiping things down, sweeping, dusting, and even using the dust buster.
If you’re going to undertake several tasks, you can let them choose the ones they want to complete.
Make an atmosphere and have some fun since developing a positive relationship with cleaning will benefit you in the long term.
Put on some music, maybe an apron, and be prepared to splash and go slowly. Consider it a big of unity rather than a major thing to be crossed off, and the kids will feel less pressure and anxiety.
My previous supervisor has a saying she tells detail-oriented employees who strive for perfection. “80 percent is almost always sufficient.” We’d never get our clothes on if we aimed for perfection in everything.
Allow it if your children put forth effort and it will suffice.
Children desire to perform well and will work hard to satisfy you. Consider this: if their heart attitude has been one of effort, let their effort stand and don’t feel compelled to go back and repeat it.
If you do, they will notice and question what the point of helping at all is. If their outcome is poor due to a negative attitude, it is a different issue that you can work through with some discipline.
Rewards, Praise and Consequences
Working up a cleaning rotation is an excellent approach to get the cleaning on a schedule that you may not have to actively supervise once your children are of school age and can read and comprehend the concepts of charts.
If your daughter is in charge of sweeping the kitchen after supper for a month, there must be a direct penalty if she fails to do so.
Arrange the duties or cleaning in front of something enjoyable. Make your child earn screen time by doing tasks, for example. Fortunately, this reduces resistance and argument.
You will not be sorry!
Talk About Family Contributions
At the end of the day, teaching children to clean may be more difficult than doing it ourselves. It takes determination to involve our children in the cleaning process. However, the goal of parenting is to prepare our children for future success. Not to make things easy for them in the near run.
Because everyone benefits from a clean house, everyone should contribute to its upkeep. Cleaning is an excellent way to instil responsibility and hygiene in children. Also, to assist your children understand that the world does not revolve around them.
There will be several opportunities to lavish love and care on your children. However, pampering them by not expecting anything from them will have the opposite effect.
So, even if you have someone come in and help with the thorough cleaning, there is always tidying, sorting, organising, and basic daily upkeep like dishes, garbage, clearing the table, and sweeping.
Household tasks will become second nature if you begin them when kids are small. Even if kids aren’t particularly fond of cleaning as teenagers (or ever), it will be so commonplace that you won’t have to beg, coax, or threaten them.
And, let’s be honest, we don’t always enjoy our obligations. But whether or not we enjoy them has no bearing on whether or not they must be completed.