The Best Questions to Ask Your Kid Instead of “How Was Your Day?” To Start An Engaging Conversation

Questions to ask kids

Have you ever picked up your child from school, asked about their day and got a “good.” as a response? Welcome to parenthood.

It can be a challenge to get a straight answer out of a child after school. When you find just the right combination of words, you can get your kids, and teenagers to open up and share the details of their day with you.

I wish this wasn’t the case. I wish that all kids just jumped into the car or ran into the house at full speed, just waiting to tell you about their day.

*Que memories of Kindergarten*

I truly believe the challenge kids face when answering a large question such as “How was your day at school?” is that the topic is too broad.

Often times, when I ask my spouse how his day was at work, he will also respond with “Good” because it’s easy and requires no thought.

So how do we get our kids to open up to us about their school day and let us know about bullies, insecurities and victories?

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Questions To Ask Your Kids To Open Up About School

1. Do you ever see kids being mean to each other?

2. What do most of the kids play during recess?

3. How do you feel your day went on a scale of 1 to 10? Why?

4. If anyone in the world could be your teacher for a day who would it be?

5. What is your favourite class?

6. What is your least favourite class?

7. What subject is the easiest for you?

8. If you could stop doing anything in your school day, what would it be?

9. If you could add anything to your school day, what would it be?10. Do you ever feel left out at school?

11. Would you do anything differently in your classes if you were the teacher?

12. Does everyone follow the rules in your class?

13. Who do you want to make friends with that you haven’t already?

14. did you feel scared or alone during your day?

15. Did you help anyone out today?

16. What did you learn today in ____ class?

17. Tell me something that makes you feel smart.

18. What was the most challenging thing you worked on today?

19. Did you start any new projects today?

20. How did _____ (project, presentation, event) go today?

21. Did you have fun today? What was the best part?

22. Did anything happen today that made you feel brave?

23. Did you enjoy your lunch? Is there anything different you would like for your lunch kit?

24. Who did you hang out with at lunch?

25. Did you make any new friends?

26. Did anything make you laugh today?

27. What was the most boring thing?

These are some pretty great conversation starters for kids that can get them talking and talking, hopefully. Not every day will be an epic talk fest after school. After all, school is exhausting, just like a work day can be, sometimes they need a little quiet before they are ready to talk.

Let Me Know If There Are Other Questions That You Ask Your Child To Help Them Open Up To You About Their Life At School.

tiredmomsupermom

Elizabeth is a mom of 2 and has a passion for helping children reach their human potential. She enjoys helping parents raise confident and healthy kids by explaining how to handle situations using positive parenting.

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25 Comments

  1. tiredmomsupermom says:

    That’s awesome, I love those engaging questions that start big conversations

  2. tiredmomsupermom says:

    Right?! Like how did you NOT remember to tell me that earlier? Even my child will sometimes tell his father more during dinner time than me right after school pick up. Sometimes they just don’t feel like talking after being surrounded by people and need a mental break.

  3. My aunt likes to ask my lil cousin about his favorite subject and least favorite subjects. He has a lot to share.. .even he shares things which you are not supposed to tell your parents. ?

  4. tiredmomsupermom says:

    You’re very welcome! I hope these start some conversations at home

  5. These are so divine. How’s your day? was the popular one and we only get a one word answer. Thank you for this.

  6. Great ideas! I’ll never forget the time I asked my preschooler how school was after picking him up and he replied with the mechanical “good.” Then that night as I tucked him in he told me a harrowing story about his best friend falling during a game of tag and knocking out his front tooth! Blood was everywhere! And all I could think was “and this wasn’t memorable enough to tell me when I asked how your day was?!?”

  7. Open-ended questions like these are so much better for getting more detailed answers. We ask our grandkids things like What was the best thing you did at school today, and usually get pretty full answers.

  8. I wish my parents knew how to ask, I wish they read your list. I was never open with school issues with parents, I think you could if much help if only we connected better. such posts like your are helping a lot!

  9. My two girls are the polar opposite of each other. My oldest will tell us literally every detail of her day while my youngest communicates in one word answers. “Good”, “Yes” and OK are her standards. These are some great questions to open a dialogue about their day. I will be trying many of these.

  10. I remember those days when I was in school and my mother would ask this. She wasn’t the most nurturing person on the planet, so she would find something to complain about in whatever I said. So I learned to just use the whole “good” answer as a way to keep her out of my business and not give her a reason to complain or put me in tears. I always wished she actually cared enough to listen to me and let me open up, but that wasn’t the case. The only time we talked about what I learned in a class was when the automated phone call arrived because my teacher accidentally marked me absent, and I had to prove I was there. I think if I had kids, that would be the question I asked, especially in terms of classes they didn’t like. Because I would want to try finding ways to make it interesting or help them learn more from it.

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