How To Teach Siblings To Be Best Friends
Over the last few months, I’ve had a few questions and done a lot of thinking about how to develop sibling relationships and get my kids to play together. I’m either breaking up a quarrel or melting over joint giggles coming from the next room when I have two toddlers at home.
My favourite aspect of motherhood is watching Lincoln and Adelaide grow into the best little pals. The first smiles were wonderful, and the first “mother” was captivating, but watching these two love each other is ten times better.
Siblings that get along are not just advantageous in the long run (my three siblings are among my closest friends), but they are also extremely practical right now. I often claim that two is easier than one, and I believe this is true most of the time these days. They amuse and engage one another, and if I’m lucky, they do so cheerfully.
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How To Teach Siblings To Be Best Friends
Make Sure They Spend Time Together
Spending time with one’s siblings is the best approach for them to become close friends. Friendships are more likely to form as time passes. I can’t deny that homeschooling has aided in the development of my boys’ tight bonds. They don’t have many options because they are always together! Of course, you don’t have to home school your children to be mindful about their time together; there are many other ways we may encourage our children to spend time together.
- Parents frequently schedule their children’s activities, “playdates,” or screen time to keep them from having to deal with one other at home. It may appear like keeping children active all of the time is the correct thing to do, but it can also be considered lazy parenting. Allow your children to hang out together and they will ultimately come up with activities to do, frequently with the use of their imagination (remember that!?) and basic materials. Boredom isn’t going to kill them, either; when kids are bored together, they’re more inclined to get creative. Allow some breathing room in your children’s schedules and watch what occurs.
- Vacations and holidays. Family trips and holidays provide some of the best opportunities for family bonding! Some families allow their children to bring a friend on vacations or travel with other families. This is acceptable at times. However, if all they have is one another, children are much more likely to bond.
- Bedrooms are shared. I enjoy having my boys share a room for a variety of reasons. First and foremost, they should learn to share space and get along. Second, kids don’t actually “need” their own space. (Having their own bed is a luxury in most parts on the planet.) Sharing a room prepares them for dorm life, apartment life, and, eventually, marriage. Finally, as they get older, sharing a room is a terrific way to hold each other accountable. If one of my teenagers attempts to stay up late on the internet, his sibling will undoubtedly confront him. When a child has a roommate, he is much less likely to get into trouble. With that stated, I understand how important it is for a child to have his own place.
Encourage Kids To Support Each Other
It’s difficult for parents, let alone siblings, to keep up with their children’s numerous interests. However, when children are aware of and active in one another’s hobbies, connections are bound to blossom. When possible, encourage kids to join in on each other’s activities. It will never be completely fair or balanced, but it is worthwhile to attempt.
Even if the entire family is unable to attend activities, it is beneficial to ensure that talks are carefully focused on each child’s interests. Parents can direct talks at dinner or in the car so that each child gets a turn in the spotlight.
Find Common Interests
Though we encourage our boys to pursue their own hobbies, it is really beneficial to have at least a handful of activities that everyone in the family likes. Our boys have a large variety of interests, but surfing and music are two of their favourites. They may go in ten different directions in a single day, but knowing that there are a few things they enjoy doing together will keep them together. Every family may find a game, activity, art form, or sport that everyone in the family can enjoy. Put some work into identifying a few similar hobbies, and your children will likely use them as “connection points” for years to come.
Allow Them To Sort Out Their Problems
Kids are destined to get into fights, whether they’re just having a good time or really getting into it.
They are going to disagree. They’ll squabble and squabble some more. We must not allow things to spiral out of control, but we must give them time to work things out. This can be difficult for those of us who want to be in charge of everything and make sure everyone gets along, but most children will learn and grow if they are given the opportunity to figure things out.
How To Teach Siblings To Be Best Friends Bottom Line
It’s important to remember that all friendships take time to build. Be patient if your children are little and fighting like cats and dogs. It’s conceivable that they’ll outgrow it. Discuss the future with them, emphasising the importance of their growing up to love each other; show them examples of other loving families. After that, give them some time.