Redirection In Positive Parenting: Scripts That Work (All Ages)

Quick Answer: Redirection is guiding a child away from unwanted behavior toward a positive alternative without punishment or power struggle. Instead of “Stop that!”, you acknowledge their feeling, set a clear boundary, and offer a better choice. It works because kids feel heard and respected, not controlled—and they’re more likely to cooperate.

You’re watching your toddler throw toys across the room. Your instinct is to yell. But you stop yourself, take a breath, and realize there’s a different way.

Redirection is one of the most powerful tools in positive parenting—but most parents have never actually tried it because they don’t know what to say in the moment. They understand the concept: offer a choice instead of a punishment. But when their kid is mid-tantrum, what does that actually sound like?

The truth is, redirection works because it respects a child’s fundamental need to feel autonomous and heard. It’s not the same as letting kids run wild. There’s a clear boundary. But instead of enforcing it through punishment or shame, you guide them toward something better.

By the end of this guide, you’ll have exact scripts for every age and real-world scenario—so you can stop yelling and start redirecting, today.

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What Is Redirection in Positive Parenting?

Redirection is guiding a child away from unwanted behavior by acknowledging their need or feeling, setting a firm boundary, and offering a positive alternative. It respects the child’s autonomy while keeping your parenting boundary intact.

The goal is not to punish or shame the child into compliance. The goal is to help them learn what they should do instead—and why—while preserving your relationship and their sense of dignity.

How Redirection Differs From Punishment

Punishment tells a child: “You did something wrong, and you’re going to suffer the consequences.” It often leaves the child angry, shamed, or simply waiting for the punishment to end so they can do it again.

Redirection tells a child: “I see what you want (autonomy, connection, fun). Here’s a way to get it that works for everyone.” It teaches them what to do, not just what not to do.

Punishment	Redirection	Distraction
Focuses on what went wrong	Focuses on what to do instead	Ignores the behavior and switches topics
Child feels shame or anger	Child feels heard and respected	Child doesn’t learn anything
Relationship strain	Relationship strengthened	Works temporarily; behavior repeats
Example: “Go to time-out for hitting”	Example: “Hands are for gentle touches. Let’s squish this pillow instead.”	Example: “Look, a bird!” (while the child is still angry)

How Redirection Differs From Distraction

Parents often confuse redirection with distraction. Distraction is switching topics entirely to make a problem go away. It’s quick, but it doesn’t work long-term because the child never learns anything.

Redirection addresses what the child actually wanted or needed, just in a more acceptable way. The underlying need is still satisfied—but differently.

Why Redirection Works (The Brain Science)

When you redirect instead of punish, something important happens in your child’s brain. Instead of triggering a fight-or-flight response, you activate their prefrontal cortex—the part that handles reasoning, problem-solving, and learning.

Most young kids aren’t misbehaving to make you angry. They’re acting on a need: autonomy, connection, or stimulation. When you redirect, you’re saying, “I get that you want [thing]. Here’s how we do it safely.”

Kids Need Autonomy and Connection

Research on motivation shows that humans—especially children—thrive when they feel two things: autonomous (in control of their choices) and connected (respected and understood). Punishment strips both away. Redirection preserves both.

When a child feels heard, they’re more likely to listen. When they feel like they’re making the choice, they’re more willing to cooperate. Redirection creates that feeling without giving up your authority.

How Redirection Preserves the Relationship

Every time you yell or punish, you’re triggering a stress response in your child’s nervous system. They might comply out of fear, but you’re also teaching them that relationships involve shame and anger.

Redirection, by contrast, communicates: “I love you. You messed up. Here’s how we fix it.” The child learns the lesson without losing respect for you or themselves.

The Core Redirection Formula

Every redirect has three parts. Once you understand the formula, you can handle almost any behavior.

Acknowledge the feeling or want: Name what your child actually wants or is feeling. “I see you want to keep playing.” “You’re feeling frustrated.” This takes two to five seconds and makes all the difference.
Set the boundary (clear no): State what’s not allowed, calmly and firmly. Not punishing—just clear. “We don’t throw toys.” “Hitting hurts.” No negotiation, no lecture.
Offer an alternative: Give them a way to meet the same need safely or constructively. “You can throw this pillow,” or “Let’s go outside so you can run.”

That’s it. The entire script usually takes 20-30 seconds. Most parents make it harder by adding lectures, repeating the boundary, or offering too many choices.

Age-Based Redirection Scripts (Toddlers, 18 Months–3 Years)

Toddlers are learning to communicate, test boundaries, and experience big feelings in tiny bodies. They’re not being difficult on purpose—they’re literally learning how the world works.

At this age, redirection needs to be simple, physical, and quick. Long explanations won’t work. Show them what to do, not just what not to do.

Common Toddler Behaviors & Redirection Scripts

Scenario: Your toddler is playing with your phone while you’re trying to make dinner.

❌ What not to do: “Stop that! You’re going to break it. Go play in the other room!” (The child feels rejected and doesn’t learn what to do instead.)

✓ Redirection: (Calm, warm tone) “I see you want something to play with. Phones aren’t for babies. Here’s your kitchen toy—let’s make dinner together.” (Hand them the toy and guide them to your side.)

Why it works: You named what they actually wanted (something to do), set the boundary clearly, and gave them an acceptable alternative that keeps them near you.

Scenario: Your toddler won’t get in the car seat.

❌ What not to do: “Get in the car seat right now! We’re late!” (This triggers a power struggle. The child digs in because you’re forcing them.)

✓ Redirection: (Cheerful, matter-of-fact) “I know you want to choose. You can pick the blue blanket or the red blanket for the car seat. Which one?” (Offer a real choice within a non-negotiable boundary.)

Why it works: The child still gets in the car seat, but they feel like they chose. Autonomy is preserved. The behavior shifts because the need for control is met.

Scripts for Aggression (Hitting, Biting)

When a toddler hits or bites, they’re often expressing frustration or seeking connection (yes, even biting). They’re not tiny monsters.

Scenario: Your toddler hits you when you say no.

❌ What not to do: “Don’t hit! That’s bad! Go to time-out!” (Shames them for having big feelings and doesn’t teach them what to do instead.)

✓ Redirection: (Firm, kind voice) “Hands are for gentle touches. You’re angry, and that’s okay. Let’s hit this pillow instead.” (Move their hand to the pillow and let them hit it hard.)

Why it works: You validated the feeling, set a boundary, and gave them a physical outlet for that angry energy. They learn: “Feelings are okay. This is how I show anger safely.”

Scripts for Refusal (Won’t Eat, Won’t Leave the Park)

When toddlers refuse, they’re exercising autonomy. Fighting them directly triggers more refusal. Offering a choice within the boundary changes the dynamic.

Scenario: It’s time to leave the park, and your toddler refuses.

❌ What not to do: “We’re leaving NOW. Stop crying! Everyone’s watching!” (Your stress escalates their distress. Power struggle ensues.)

✓ Redirection: (Calm, empathetic) “I know you love the park and don’t want to leave. We have to go home for lunch. You can walk to the car or I can carry you. What do you choose?” (Neutral tone, no punishment.)

Why it works: The boundary is non-negotiable (leaving is not a choice), but the method is. The child feels respected and is less likely to have a full meltdown.

Age-Based Redirection Scripts (Preschoolers, 3–5 Years)

Preschoolers can understand more complex explanations and longer conversations. They’re also beginning to care what others think, so shame becomes a possible consequence if you use it. Redirection at this age should include a brief reason—not a lecture.

Preschoolers are also learning to take turns and follow simple rules, so this is a great age to make redirection feel like teamwork.

Common Preschooler Behaviors & Redirection Scripts

Scenario: Your preschooler refuses to get ready for school because they want to wear their superhero costume.

❌ What not to do: “We don’t have time for this. Put on your real clothes or you’re losing screen time!” (You’ve made it a punishment. Now they’re upset and still not ready.)

✓ Redirection: (Warm, problem-solving tone) “I see you want to wear your cape. We need to wear clothes for school so you don’t get cold. Here’s an idea: wear your costume after school for 30 minutes. Should we set a timer?” (Validate + boundary + future compromise.)

Why it works: You didn’t shame them for wanting the costume. You gave them something to look forward to. Now they’re invested in the solution, not fighting you.

Scenario: Your preschooler is being loud in the library.

❌ What not to do: “Stop being so loud! Everyone’s staring!” (This embarrasses them and makes them defensive.)

✓ Redirection: (Whispering, kind) “The library is a quiet place so people can read. Let’s use our library voices. Can you help me whisper?” (Make it collaborative.)

Why it works: You gave them a reason they can understand, showed them what you want (quiet voices), and made them your teammate instead of your opponent.

Scripts for Not Listening

Preschoolers often “don’t listen” because they’re absorbed in what they’re doing, not because they’re defiant. Redirection works better than repetition.

Scenario: You’ve asked your preschooler three times to put on their shoes and they’re still playing.

❌ What not to do: “Why aren’t you listening? I’ve asked a million times! Put your shoes on NOW!” (Yelling usually makes kids shut down or shut out.)

✓ Redirection: (Get down to their level, make eye contact) “I see you’re playing with blocks. Shoes need to go on now so we can go to the park. Let’s put your shoes on together—you pick the left or right foot first.” (Offer a small choice within the requirement.)

Why it works: You acknowledged what they were doing, explained why the new task matters (going to the park), and made it feel like teamwork with a choice built in.

Scripts for Unsafe Play

Safety is non-negotiable, but the way you redirect matters even (or especially) in urgent moments.

Scenario: Your preschooler is climbing too high in a tree and won’t come down.

❌ What not to do: “Get down from there right now! You’re going to fall and break your neck!” (Fear-based commands make kids feel unsafe and often freeze them.)

✓ Redirection: (Calm, steady voice) “I see you’re having fun climbing. Trees are for climbing, and I need you to climb down now so you’re safe. Let’s climb down together—I’ll hold your hand.” (Firm, clear, collaborative.)

Why it works: You didn’t shame them for wanting to climb. You gave a clear safety reason and stayed calm so they could listen instead of panicking.

Age-Based Redirection Scripts (School-Age, 5–8 Years)

School-age kids can understand cause-and-effect and the impact of their choices on others. They’re also beginning to care deeply about fairness and friendship. Redirection at this age can include a brief explanation of why the boundary exists and how their choice affects others.

Scripts for Defiance and Negotiation

School-age kids start to argue and negotiate. This is healthy development, but it requires a different redirect than you’d use with a toddler.

Scenario: Your child refuses to do homework and keeps negotiating for “five more minutes” of screen time.

❌ What not to do: “Stop arguing with me! You do homework now or you lose your tablet for a week!” (This escalates the power struggle.)

✓ Redirection: (Calm, empathetic) “I get that you want more time on the tablet. The rule is homework first. Here’s what I can do: you do 20 minutes of homework, then a 10-minute break, then finish homework. That way you get a break but homework still gets done.” (Validate + boundary + offer a compromise that respects their need for a break.)

Why it works: You didn’t shut down their negotiation—you redirected it toward a solution that works for everyone. They feel heard AND the boundary holds.

Scenario: Your child talks back or says “That’s not fair!” when you set a limit.

❌ What not to do: “Don’t you dare talk to me that way! You’re grounded!” (This teaches them to swallow their feelings, not to manage them.)

✓ Redirection: (Calm, respectful tone) “I hear that you’re frustrated and think it’s unfair. I’m open to hearing your perspective after you take five minutes to calm down. Then we can talk about it.” (Validate the feeling + set a boundary on the tone + show you’re willing to listen.)

Why it works: You respected their right to have feelings while teaching them there’s a way to express frustration that you can actually listen to. They learn emotional regulation, not shame.

Scripts for Not Following Directions

School-age kids often “don’t listen” because they’re distracted, not because they’re defiant. Redirection works better than repetition.

Scenario: You’ve asked your child to clean their room. An hour later, they’re still playing and the room is untouched.

❌ What not to do: “Why can’t you ever listen? I’ve asked you a hundred times! Clean your room right now or you’re losing playtime!” (Threats and yelling trigger defensiveness.)

✓ Redirection: (Neutral, matter-of-fact) “I notice the room still needs cleaning. I think you might need help breaking it into steps. Let’s make a list together: first the toys, then the clothes, then the books. Start with toys while I watch, and I’ll help with anything tricky.” (Acknowledge + offer practical help + make it collaborative.)

Why it works: Maybe your child wasn’t defying you—they were overwhelmed by the task. By breaking it down and showing you’re on their team, you removed the resistance.

Scripts for Sibling Conflict

Siblings fight. It’s normal. Redirection helps them learn to solve problems instead of just tattling or escalating.

Scenario: Your children are fighting over a toy.

❌ What not to do: “Stop fighting! Give me that toy—nobody plays with it now!” (Punishment doesn’t teach them to share or solve problems.)

✓ Redirection: (Calm, coaching tone) “You both want the toy. Hitting doesn’t solve it. Here are your choices: take turns (10 minutes each), play together, or pick something else to play with. What sounds good?” (Set boundary + offer solutions + let them choose.)

Why it works: They learn conflict resolution, not just obedience. Next time they fight, they’ll remember these tools and might solve it without your help.

Age-Based Redirection Scripts (Tweens & Older, 8+ Years)

Tweens and older kids are developing their own opinions and testing independence. Redirection at this age shifts away from “what to do instead” and toward collaborative problem-solving. Tone becomes critical—they’re extremely sensitive to being talked down to.

Scripts for Eye-Rolling and Attitude

When tweens eye-roll or sigh dramatically, they’re testing whether you’ll lose your cool. If you stay calm and respectful, they’re more likely to listen.

Scenario: You ask your tween to finish their homework, they eye-roll and say “Ugh, fine,” in the most exasperated tone.

❌ What not to do: “Don’t you EVER roll your eyes at me! You have an attitude problem!” (This makes it about respect rather than behavior, and they dig in.)

✓ Redirection: (Matter-of-fact, not offended) “I get that you’re frustrated about homework. The eye-roll isn’t helping either of us. Homework still needs to get done. Do you want to do it now or in 30 minutes?” (Name the feeling + set boundary + offer a choice.)

Why it works: You didn’t take the attitude personally or shame them for having feelings. You redirected to the actual issue (homework) and gave them control over timing.

Scenario: Your tween is on their phone during family dinner and ignores you when you ask them to put it away.

❌ What not to do: “You’re so disrespectful! Give me that phone right now!” (Shaming and confiscating usually backfires at this age.)

✓ Redirection: (Calm, respectful) “I see you’re into something on your phone. Phones aren’t at the dinner table so we can actually talk. Put it away now, and you can check it after dinner. I’m interested in hearing about your day.” (Acknowledge + boundary + show it’s not punishment, just a family rule.)

Why it works: You respected them enough not to snatch the phone. You made it about the rule, not their character. And you showed interest in them, which tweens desperately want.

Scripts for Screen Time Battles

Screen time battles are among the most common parent-kid conflicts at this age. Redirection works better than ultimatums.

Scenario: Your tween has been on their device for three hours and won’t stop when you ask.

❌ What not to do: “That’s it! No screen time for a week! You’re addicted to that thing!” (Harsh consequences often backfire; plus, the device isn’t going anywhere.)

✓ Redirection: (Problem-solving tone) “I notice you’ve been on that for a while. I’m not trying to take it away forever. Let’s work on a plan that works for both of us. What if you set a timer for 30 minutes and when it goes off, you’re done for the day? We can also talk about tomorrow’s schedule.” (Collaborate + set boundary + involve them in the solution.)

Why it works: You’re treating them like a person with a problem to solve, not a problem child. They’re more likely to cooperate if they helped create the solution.

Scripts for Responsibility & Chores

Tweens need to learn responsibility, but lecturing doesn’t work. Redirection toward natural consequences does.

Scenario: Your tween hasn’t done chores all week and when you bring it up, they say they “forgot.”

❌ What not to do: “You didn’t forget—you just didn’t care! You’re so irresponsible! You’re not getting your allowance!” (Shaming and punishment without teaching doesn’t stick.)

✓ Redirection: (Calm, collaborative) “I see chores didn’t get done this week. Here’s what I’m thinking: let’s set a specific day and time—like Saturday morning at 9 a.m. You can set a phone reminder so you actually remember. If chores are done by Saturday, allowance is ready. If not, we skip it that week. Sound fair?” (Acknowledge + offer practical solution + show natural consequence.)

Why it works: You’re teaching responsibility through accountability, not shame. The natural consequence (no allowance) teaches better than punishment ever could.

Redirection in High-Stakes Moments

Redirection works in most everyday situations, but some moments feel more urgent. Safety situations, public meltdowns, and repeated refusal all test your composure. Stay calm. Redirection still works, but the tone shifts toward firm and fast.

When Your Child Is Aggressive (Hitting, Throwing)

Aggression often comes from feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, or powerless. Even in the moment, you can redirect.

Stay calm. If your child sees you panicked or angry, they panic too. Your steady presence teaches them they can manage big feelings.

Name the behavior clearly. “Hands are for gentle touches” or “Things are not for throwing.” No shame, just fact.

Separate them from the situation. If a child is hitting a sibling, separate them. “I’m going to hold your hand so nobody gets hurt. Let’s go to the kitchen for a moment.”

Offer a physical outlet. Aggression is energy. Give it somewhere to go: “You seem angry. Let’s go hit this pillow” or “Let’s do 20 jumping jacks together to get that feeling out.”

Circle back when calm. Don’t process or teach in the heat of the moment. Wait 15 minutes, then gently ask: “What happened? What made you so angry? What could you do differently next time?”

When Your Child Is Having a Meltdown in Public

Public meltdowns are mortifying for parents, but they’re also an opportunity to teach emotional regulation without shame.

Don’t give in to stop the meltdown. If you reward the meltdown with what they wanted, you’ve taught them that meltdowns work.

Stay calm and speak quietly. Your calm voice is more powerful than shouting over a crying child.

Keep boundaries firm. “I know you’re upset. We still can’t leave the store with toys we haven’t paid for.” No wavering.

Offer connection or a physical outlet. “Do you want to sit down for a minute?” or “Let’s take a walk to the back of the store while you calm down.”

Don’t force an apology or “one minute later” compliance. Let them cry. Crying is how kids process emotion. Once they’re calmer, you can talk about what happened.

When Your Child Refuses Repeatedly

Sometimes redirection doesn’t work the first time. This is normal. Persistence matters more than perfection.

Stay consistent. If you said “homework before screen time,” that boundary holds every day. Inconsistency teaches kids to negotiate harder.

Don’t argue or explain endlessly. Repetition won’t convince them. If they’re still refusing after you’ve offered a redirect, you might need a natural consequence: “The choice is yours. If homework doesn’t happen now, you don’t have screen time tonight.” Then follow through, calmly.

Separate the child from the behavior. “I love you. I don’t like this choice you’re making.” This keeps their self-worth intact while enforcing the boundary.

Common Redirection Mistakes (and How to Avoid Them)

Redirection is simple, but parents often undermine it without realizing it. Here are the most common mistakes:

Offering too many choices. Three or more choices overwhelms kids. Stick to two: “Would you like to clean your room now or in 10 minutes?” Not: “You could clean now, or we could clean together, or you could clean before dinner, or…”
Using a frustrated or sarcastic tone. Your words might be redirective, but if your tone is angry, the kid hears punishment. They’ll focus on your mood instead of the redirect.
Redirecting to something equally undesirable. “Stop hitting your brother—go sit in your room” isn’t redirection; it’s punishment with a directive. Redirection offers something the child actually wants to do: “Let’s go squeeze this stress ball” or “Want to help me make snacks?”
Using redirection to avoid all limits. Redirection is not permissiveness. You still have boundaries. You’re just teaching them respectfully. If your child never hears “no,” they won’t understand that some things aren’t negotiable.
Expecting immediate compliance after a redirect. Some kids need a moment to transition. If you redirect and they’re still fussing, give them 30 seconds of quiet processing time. They might surprise you and follow through.

When Redirection Isn’t Enough

Redirection works for most everyday misbehaviors, but some situations need backup. Know when to add a natural consequence or seek professional support.

Redirection + Consequences

When a child repeatedly makes the same choice despite redirection, a natural consequence teaches better than another redirect.

A natural consequence is what naturally happens as a result of a choice, not a punishment you impose. If your child refuses to eat breakfast and is hungry at school, hunger is the natural consequence (not you packing a special lunch). If they refuse to wear a jacket and are cold, cold is the consequence.

Natural consequences teach far better than punishment because the child learns from experience, not from your enforcement. They also respect your child’s autonomy—the child made a choice, and they experienced the result.

When to Seek Professional Support

Redirection works for typical misbehavior, but some behavioral patterns might benefit from additional support:

Your child’s aggressive behavior is escalating or causing injury
Your child seems to ignore all redirects as if they’re not hearing them
Your child’s behavior is significantly different from other kids their age
You feel like you’re constantly redirecting and nothing is changing
Your stress around parenting is affecting your own mental health

In these situations, a conversation with your pediatrician or a child psychologist can help rule out developmental delays, sensory issues, or other factors that might need different support than redirection alone.

Redirection Checklist: Keep It Handy

Quick Mental Checklist for In-the-Moment Redirection

☐ Pause. Take a breath before responding.

☐ Acknowledge. Name what your child wants or is feeling. (20 seconds)

☐ Boundary. State what’s not allowed—calmly, clearly, no lecture. (10 seconds)

☐ Alternative. Offer what they can do instead. (10 seconds)

☐ Follow through. If needed, help them get started.

Total time: about 40 seconds. That’s it.

Frequently Asked Questions About Redirection

What’s the difference between redirection and distraction?

Redirection addresses the underlying need the child had. Distraction switches topics entirely. If your child is frustrated because they want control, distraction (changing the subject) doesn’t work long-term because the need isn’t met. Redirection says, “I get that you want control. Here’s a way.” Distraction says, “Look, a puppy!” and avoids the issue.

At what age does redirection start working?

Redirection can start as early as 12-18 months, once kids understand simple language and can follow basic directions. For babies before this, prevention and removing the temptation work better than redirection. By age 2-3, redirection becomes very effective.

What do I do if my child refuses the redirect?

Stay calm. Give them a moment to transition. If they still refuse after 30 seconds, you might need a natural consequence: “The choice is yours. If you don’t put your shoes on, we’re not going to the park.” Then follow through, calmly and kindly. Never use a consequence as punishment—use it as a teaching tool.

How is redirection different from just letting my kid do what they want?

Redirection has a clear boundary. You’re saying “no” to the original behavior. You’re offering an alternative within your limits, not letting them do whatever they want. If your child wants to hit their sibling, redirection is not letting them hit—it’s offering a pillow to hit instead. The boundary is firm.

Does redirection work if my child is already angry?

Not always in the moment. If a child is in a full meltdown, they’re too dysregulated to hear you. Wait for them to calm down slightly (even one minute helps), then redirect. Your calm presence teaches them they can manage big feelings.

Can I use redirection for safety issues (running into the street)?

Yes, but with urgency. Safety is non-negotiable, so be very clear and firm: “Stop! The street is dangerous. Hold my hand.” Then redirect once they’re safe: “Cars are fast. We hold hands near the street.” The principle is the same, but the tone is more urgent.

What if redirection takes longer than just saying “no”?

Short-term, yes. But redirection actually saves time long-term because you’re not dealing with power struggles, meltdowns, or the same behavior repeating. Plus, you’re building a healthier relationship and teaching your child emotional skills they’ll use for life.

How do I redirect without offering endless choices?

Offer two choices max, and make sure both honor your boundary. Not: “Do whatever you want.” Examples: “Would you like to get in the car seat now or in two minutes?” “Do you want to wear the blue shirt or the red shirt?” Both work; the child feels they chose.

Is redirection the same thing as natural consequences?

No. Redirection is teaching in the moment by guiding them toward a better choice. Natural consequences happen after the fact. You might redirect (“You’re angry—let’s hit this pillow instead”), and if they refuse to redirect, a consequence might follow (“If you hit your brother, you won’t have screen time today”). They work together.

Does every parent get redirection right on the first try?

No. Redirection is a skill, and skills take practice. Your first few redirects might feel awkward. Your kid might still not cooperate. That’s okay. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s progress. Each time you try instead of yelling, you’re building new neural pathways (yours and theirs).

What This Means for You

Redirection is not a magic bullet. It’s a tool. Some days it works perfectly; other days your kid will still melt down. But every time you redirect instead of yelling, you’re teaching your child that big feelings are manageable, that respect is always in the relationship, and that you trust them to make better choices.

The real magic isn’t in the scripts—it’s in the shift. When you stop seeing your child’s misbehavior as defiance and start seeing it as a need trying to get met, everything changes. Your frustration decreases. Your child’s defensiveness decreases. And your relationship strengthens.

Start with one situation this week—the one that frustrates you most. Try the three-step formula. Notice what happens. You might be surprised.

Related Reading: If you’re interested in deeper positive parenting strategies, check out 12 Ways to Celebrate Your Child’s Unique Character to help your child thrive beyond just behavior management. If you’re feeling burned out from the constant work of parenting, How to Bounce Back from Mom Burnout offers strategies for your own wellbeing so you can show up as your best self for your kids.