My child sometimes seems to accompany me on errands rather than enjoyable trips to the Children’s Museum or playground. A hectic schedule and a large to-do list have been known to limit unbroken Mommy time where I can offer my kid my complete attention.
The whirlwind of life; of taking care of three kids, walking the dogs, running a home, and juggling adult responsibilities like paying the bills and keeping the fridge stocked (and, of course, a little thing called work) makes it difficult to live in the moment and always stay connected to my kids.
Making an effort to connect and engage on a regular basis does not imply ignoring your obligations or becoming a permissive parent. It’s as easy as pushing things aside for 15 minutes since the window of opportunity to connect and engage with your children is limited, and in the big scheme of life, the laundry, dishes, and email you need to answer to can all wait. It can all wait if you want to be connected and involved with your child.
Meaningful Ways to Connect with Your Toddler
- I’ll leave the dishes in the sink for a few more hours before taking you to the park to play. I’m not going to sit and watch you play; I’m going to slide down the slide and swing on the swings with you.
- I’m going to put my phone away during breakfast and listen to and speak with you.
- Let’s turn on some music and have a dance party in the afternoon.
- I’ll let the washing pile up so we can go on a walk outside and smell the flowers.
- I’ll pull up a stool and let you help me prepare supper, even though it will delay things by 20 minutes and certainly triple the mess.
- When you want me to snuggle, I’m going to lie next to you, hug you close, and breathe you in the next time I want to speed through sleep because it’s been a long day and I’m weary.
- When you beg to go through the sprinklers, I’m going to put on my swimsuit and join you.
- When you ask if we can play the game again, I’m going to overlook the floors that need to be cleaned and vacuumed until tomorrow and offer we play the game twice more.
- When you ask whether I witnessed your trick, I’ll put my camera aside so I can actually observe you with my eyes wide open and absorb you in.
- Instead of rushing to the grocery store, the post office, or the gym, let’s set aside 20 minutes to paint our nails whatever color you like.
- Instead of hurrying you out of the water and into your jammies, I’m going to breathe you in and hold you in my arms like a baby, since you’re growing too quickly and will be too big for this one day.
- I’m not going to listen to music the next time we’re in the car. Instead, I’ll question you about all of your favorite things and listen while you tell me about them.
- When it’s time to eat, I’ll switch things up and grab a blanket for an outdoor picnic.
- I’m going to grip you tight and hold you extra-long the next time you ask for a hug or run into my arms.
- Every time I see your grin, I go for my phone to take a photo, but this time I’m just going to stare at it and let it warm my heart. I’ll allow the gratitude I feel for the fact that you’re my kid and I’m your Mama fill me full.
Why It’s Important To Make Daily Connections With Kids
Making connections is just another way of saying knowing how things are connected to one another and how the physical world operates. Babies form associations from the moment they are born, such as understanding that when they see a bottle, it is feeding time. Young children learn to establish connections as they grow and develop in order to comprehend and dominate their environments. We continue to establish these connections throughout adulthood, and it is via these connections that we are able to comprehend and succeed in the world we live in. This could be as basic as remembering to bring your umbrella to work when the sky is gloomy and foggy, or as complex as making wise financial decisions because you understand interest rates.
Tips for Making Quality Time
Here are some easy ways to spend quality time with your children:
- Maintain everyday contact with your child. Any sort of connection with your children is vital and useful, whether it is face-to-face interactions before school and work or sending them a small note in their lunch bags.
- Every day, tell your child that you love them. Tell your child why you love and appreciate them.
- Create a routine ritual, such as selecting and reading a short book before going to bed.
- With your gratitude, you may reinforce beneficial actions.
- Prepare a dinner and share it with your family. This allows the family to communicate with one another while also encouraging collaboration.
- Schedule time for your child to participate in an activity of their choosing.
- Even if it’s only for a few minutes, play with your child.
- Tell jokes and make your child laugh. Laughter is beneficial to one’s emotional wellbeing.
- Take a half-hour break from electronics and spend it listening to and chatting to your child.
- Making a genuine connection with your children is essential, and it could be an easy priority to include into your daily routine. This will have long-term consequences for them as they develop into contributing individuals.
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