Remarkable ways you’re mastering motherhood, even though you may feel dragged down by the daily responsibilities of mom life. Let’s take mom life into autopilot mode so we can all enjoy motherhood.
I sat at my computer after a long day of mothering and working on completing my to-do list and smiled as I heard my children laughing, playing with lego, and using their imaginations.
Yes, they were supposed to be finishing bedtime snacks and getting ready for bed, but hearing them play together so nicely brings me too much joy to interrupt such a moment.
I felt like, even though bedtime was a little bit late, I had WON the day.
No one broke any bones, everyone was fed, the kids are happy, and I’m at peace.
But that feeling of joy slipped away pretty quickly when I remembered all the things I didn’t do that day, and I did not feel like I was mastering motherhood.
I’m sure you agree with me… motherhood is HARD!
YOU are doing a fantastic job as a mother.
I already know this, since you’re here reading this post, but let me show you other reasons why you are in fact, rocking’ this motherhood thing
At the end of a very long day of motherhood, do you ever take a moment to reflect on how your parenting was that day?
Does mastering motherhood seem like an impossible thing?
Unfortunately, we all get these thoughts at the end of each day that creeps up;
- I didn’t get enough accomplished today
- I should have reacted better at this situation
- What did I even do all day? I’m exhausted!
And then you may start to think you’re doing a horrible job as a parent and wonder if your kids had a terrible day because of something you did.
This is your brain stopping you from finding the joy in motherhood. Your head fills with regrets and feelings of incompetence.
If this is you at the end of your day…STOP!!!
STOP right now. Stop Today! These thoughts are horrible, bad, terrible, the worst!
If You Wonder “Am I A Good Mom?” Here Are 16 Things All Good Moms Do
Good Moms Are Always Wanting To Be Better
If you’re a mother who is reading articles on how you can help your children blossom into adults or if you’re looking into healthy lunches for school, then you’re rocking’ motherhood.
To put it bluntly, the fact that you care about whether or not you’re a good mother automatically qualifies you as one.
It would be a different storey if you didn’t care for your children, didn’t care if what you were doing was good or bad, or didn’t care about parenting in general.
You, on the other hand, are concerned. Even reading this essay demonstrates that you are concerned.
You’re trying to be a good parent. You’re trying to provide the best for your child, and you’re always learning and growing.
That is a huge deal! Even if you’re browsing on Pinterest and an inspirational mommy article pops up, and you read it, you’re already filling your head with motherhood power that dives you toward being an amazing mommy.
(By the way, thanks for stopping by!)
You can find excellent parenting articles online, and the best are usually posts written by experienced moms who are not following all the child-raising trends.
Good Moms Take Time For Self Care
The days of women martyring themselves in order to show their worth as mothers are long gone. We now know that this is bad for everyone and simply serves to worsen the mental health of mothers.
An excellent mother, on the other hand, will make time for herself, filling her own cup and doing what she enjoys. Even if it’s only for 10 minutes a day (but ideally a little more!).
Good Moms Set Boundaries
Setting limits for your children is an important aspect of being a good parent, even if you feel like you say ‘no’ more than any other word. Boundaries are important to children, and they respond well to them.
Raising your children to be normal, functioning, and contributing members of society is a part of parenting, and there are boundaries in the’real world’ as well. Saying no to them prepares them for life’s realities and teaches them that they do not always get their way.
Good Moms Have Children Melt Down With Them
While you may feel like the worst parent in the world and that you’re failing at your job while your child is having a meltdown, what this breakdown truly demonstrates is that your child is safe enough to express their feelings in front of you.
This may not provide consolation in the midst of a meltdown, especially if it occurs in public. However, a child who expresses their feelings, indicates how they are feeling, and essentially melts down when you are nearby is demonstrating that you are their safe haven, the person they can just release their emotions to.
See also: How To Tell The Difference Between Meltdowns And Manipulation With Kids
Good Moms Have Messy and Noisy Homes
I said it! You don’t have to spend every minute of every day, making sure your house is sparkling.
Just do the basics and keep things neat-ish, and you’re doing just fine.
Kids make messes and cleaning up after every mess is just plain exhausting…ain’t nobody got time for that!
While I do have an excellent cleaning routine for busy moms (the exact way I clean my own home in just 20 – 30 min a day) … it’s not the clean home that makes you a great mom.
(Whoever said mom meant housekeeper anyway…)
And the noise? It means that kids are having fun.
Wouldn’t you much rather listen to noise and laughter and know the kids are enjoying themselves rather than the sound of silence where the kids are fully zoned in on electronics?
Yep, the noise is OK!
Good Moms Love Their Kids
If your children feel safe and loved in their home, you’re rocking motherhood.
Providing a comfortable environment for little ones to grow up in is one of the most important things that you can do for your kid!
Here are some ways you can make your children feel loved at home:
Provide companionship – spend alone time with your kids and build respect and closeness.
Tell your children how special they are how much you love them. Each child is unique and special, and each one should get told they are enjoyed daily.
I know a lot of the time as moms, we tend to throw orders at our children instead of engaging in conversations.
The more you engage in conversations, the more closely your child will feel with you.
Show your child respect through your tone of voice and acts of listening.
If you are on the phone all day and they cannot get your attention, that is not showing that you respect your children.
Respect is an essential thing to teach children as part of their developing mannerisms.
See also: How To Build A Loving Family
Good Moms Allow Kids To Be Bored Sometimes
Some mothers delight in preparing activities for their children every day. That’s incredible. To be a good mother, however, you don’t have to be Pinterest-perfect. Allowing your children to be bored is actually beneficial to their creativity, mental health, and growth.
While hearing your child remark “I’m bored” over and over may be annoying, rest assured that you are not ruining them by failing to keep them occupied at all times of the day.
Perhaps it’s time to take a break from yourself and focus on all the amazing things you accomplish instead of being so hard on yourself. You’re an incredible mother, and I’m sure you have a few of these indicators to prove it.
A Good Mommas Heart Lights Up At The Sight Of Kids
I know I cannot spend a whole lot of time away from my kids.
When I was working full-time outside of the home, I could not wait to hug my kids at the end of the day.
Whether you are a working mom or a stay-at-home mom, if you love to hug your kids and see them smiling at you, you’re doing a great job at this mom thing.
A Good Mom Has Hard Days
At some time, everyone has a bad day. As mothers, difficult days often seem to pile up, and then you read through social media and feel even more alone since everything on there is Insta-perfect…
But that isn’t the case.
It’s okay to have a bad day as a mom because you’re human. It implies that you are concerned. It signifies you’ve reached a limit and are going to cross it. It implies that you are in love. It implies that you are aware that things can be difficult.
It implies you’re a fantastic mother because, in order to have great days, you must also have bad days, which makes the good days even more special.
Good Moms Care About Their Schooling
Do you care about their performance at school?
Do you want them to have decent grades and make nice friends? Then you, Momma, are doing fantastic.
Checking in with teachers and writing emails to ensure a proper school experience means that you are an involved Mom.
No, this doesn’t make you a helicopter parent; it just makes you a caring one.
I hate those parenting labels anyway, can’t we BE PARENTS these days…why label?
Good Moms Look To Improve Communication
Sometimes children present you with behavior that is very challenging to deal with.
Instead of giving up, you look for ways to overcome these challenges and grow and learn, and that’s mastering motherhood!
Sometimes getting kids to open up and communicate is difficult.
Check out this post “How To Get Kids To Talk And Open Up” as well as this one “Conversation games for kids to encourage talking.”
Good Moms Make Moments Special
Sometimes life gets busy, and little moments of quality time can be difficult to find.
Looking for ways to make little moments special and creating memories with your children makes you a great Momma.
The simple act of being silly and playing with your children is enough to create many lasting memories.
It also strengthens the bond between parents and children, which in turn creates children who are more willing to listen!
You’ve so got this.
Good Moms Can Admit To Mistakes
Isn’t it wonderful to be a perfect mother? But the truth is that no one is. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to motherhood.
That’s why it’s crucial to admit when you’ve made a mistake. Because it is during this time that you will learn and grow.
Making mistakes and admitting them teaches your children that it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s quite acceptable to make mistakes. It’s quite acceptable to attempt something and then confess that it doesn’t work.
Good Moms Limit Screen Time When You Can (You’re Not Bad If You Don’t)
Limiting screen time is a hard thing to do these days.
I was just discussing with my husband all the different devices we have in our home that my children could possibly play with.
There are devices to try to avoid in every room! We didn’t mean for this to happen, but hey, it did, and we aren’t perfect.
Trying to get children not to be addicted to these devices is the challenge.
Providing your kids with other activities to keep their minds occupied is an essential aspect of parenting.
If you’re a Mom who is trying her best to keep the kids off the electronics, then you are doing a great job…(we all know it’s not an easy task).
Good Moms Want Kids To Be Kind and Responsible
As parents, it is our job to raise people who will contribute to society by making sure to teach your kids manners, responsibility, and kindness is what it’s all about.
Sure, academics are important.
Yes, being good at a sport or two is important…but nothing beats raising a kid who has good family values and kindness in their heart.
So if you want that for your child and are raising them to be kind, loving and responsible and confident, then you momma, are mastering motherhood.
Good Moms Say No To Others
While it’s critical to say no to your children, it’s also critical to say no to others. When you say no to others, you’re typically saying yes to yourself and your family.
Saying no to other people can take the shape of avoiding weekend events, afternoon play dates, or party invitations that eat into your family’s time or interrupt your routine.
As a wonderful mother, you understand the need of defending your family’s space, which you do by saying no to others when necessary.