Practical Tips To Handle Lazy Kids
If your kids are lazy, there are some things you can do today to reverse this behaviour! Just a few simple things to keep in mind when trying to handle lazy kids and you can get your kids off the couch in no time at all.
Sometimes kids get lazy, especially if we allow a lot of screen time during the day and forget to encourage them to help us out around the home.
Pulling kids out of the lazy zone can feel like pulling teeth or talking to a brick wall, but don’t let this disrespectful behaviour stop you from trying to get those kids off the couch and focused on their studies, chores, or other more healthy activities.
There are some things that could be causing this laziness such as anxiety, discouragement or frustration, and if you can get to the root of the problem, you can motivate your kids to get up and get active.
Just put a few of these things into practice and you’ll have happy helpers in time.
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How You Can Help Your Child Not Be So Lazy
When you encounter your child acting lazy, you can handle the situation with encouragement positive words to get out of the funk. Encouragement should be all you need to tackle lazy behaviour on the spot but here are some extra tips for you as a parent to consider when learning how to handle a lazy kid.
When you are encouraging your child to get up and complete some tasks, it is important that you don’t make the job too easy, or do it for them.
Let your child understand the value of hard work, and eliminate the overwhelm of the task by encouraging them to look at the situation in a new light, or talk about how the task can be completed in bite-size pieces.
You Are An Example
Your child watches you and learns how to act and behave based on how you act and behave. If you want to have kids who are not so lazy, then you must show them how to not be lazy by not being lazy yourself.
Give yourself some grace though, because parenting is difficult and there are times to be lazy and times to work hard. Balance those out and there should be no issue.
Let your child know what you expect from them during the task and after the task is completed. If you are asking your little one to take the garbage to the curb, explain to them that you expect the garbage to be out by 9 pm and the gate to the yard to be closed with the latch before coming back into the house.
This way your child is aware that they don’t just need to take the bin to the curb but to also close the gate properly.
I know it seems like unnecessary reminding (ego state), but children don’t remember things like adults do, and they do need that extra information given to them.
Get kids involved with daily activities around the house
I’m sure as a parent you’re pretty busy during the day looking after the house, making the meals and planning activities. Get your kids involved in all the things you do.
Breakfast time? No problem, get your kids to make their own breakfast if they are old enough or get them to be directly involved in helping you set their breakfast out for them. There is no reason your two-year-old cannot grab a bowl and a spoon for you while you reach for the cereal and milk. The same goes for scrambled eggs and your tween, you can encourage them to cook, or simply get them to beat the eggs in a bowl while you heat up the pan.
There are so many ways you can involve your kids in the daily tasks that you do around the home, and while it could be easier for you to do it yourself while the kids watch tv, it is not effective when trying to raise kids who are motivated and not lazy.
Tips To Motivate Your Lazy Kid
Don’t Argue or Fight With Your Child About Motivation
When your child is having trouble completing a task such as cleaning their room, fighting, and arguing about it is just going to make things worse. If you can finally get your kid out of bed in the morning and you were fighting about it, then you’re probably going to fight about getting dressed, brushing teeth, and eating breakfast too.
Staying Calm and Being Clear
Whenever you are trying to handle a lazy kid, it is important that you are calm and clear about your expectations. For example, if you need your child to get off the couch and put their laundry into the washing machine, then you need to say something like this.
“I need you to put your laundry into the washer so that it can be washed and dried in time for school tomorrow morning.”
If your child does not put the laundry into the washer, then the natural consequence will be the lack of clean clothes for school in the morning.
Sometimes your child will say “I don’t care” to the consequence, and that will get you super frustrated. But this is behaviour that needs to be ignored, not engaged with.
Give Effective Consequences
Providing consequences that are thought out and not “reactive” will help motivate your child to follow through with the task you are presenting.
Using negative punishment (fear conditioning) when setting consequences will work against you instead of for you in your parenting journey.
You must understand how to set consequences that work and use them in your parenting.
Parenting and patience go hand in hand like peanut butter and jelly.
In order for your children to stop being lazy and become motivated, you will need to have patience and remain calm when speaking to your children.
This is one of the hardest things we face as parents, but it can be done!
Why Are Kids Lazy
There are a few reasons why your child could be acting lazy. Let’s face it, everyone struggles with getting motivated at one point or another and kids are no different.
You may think your child is just being lazy, but there are underlying issues that could be causing this, and you can nip those issues in the bud if you pay close attention and try to figure out the problem. sometimes, the problem could be simple – screen time.
If your child is feeling discouraged, they could be feeling overwhelmed. If they don’t know where to start with something, as an adult you will look at the big picture and solve the problem by focusing on smaller portions of the issue at a time or trying to find a new way of looking at things.
Children do not have this ability, once they are overwhelmed, that is it, the task is now “impossible” and will never get finished.
Help your child work through overwhelm by asking your child if they know where to start (on a homework assignment or a chore) and if they don’t know where to start, you can help guide them in the right direction.
Try to think together of some possible solutions to the immediate issue. If you can melt away the overwhelm through support and encouragement they will not feel so alone in their task and will be much happier to tackle it.
The takeaway? Overwhelm leading to discouragement can make your child appear to be lazy.
Getting Less Lazy As A Family
Enjoy Outdoors Together
You can promote an active lifestyle with your children by getting out and enjoying nature as a family. Taking a trip to the mountains, or simply walking the dog together every afternoon is a great way to show your kids what an active lifestyle looks like.
And it’s good for you too!
Have Family Days / Family Fun Nights
After a long week of work, weekends are often for being lazy and relaxing for most parents. And while that is perfectly ok because adults work hard, it is a good idea to ensure that once a week or so you have family activity days and family fun nights where you go out and do special activities as a family unit.
Saturday could be for sleeping in and catching up on laundry at home, but Sunday is perfect for taking the kids to the beach, the splash pad, the mountains, or an indoor playground if it’s not great weather.
Keeping Up On The Housework
This is my least favourite thing, housework. There is so much of it, it can pile up too quickly.
But showing your children that you can keep up with the dishes even though your days are long and difficult will help your kids see that hard work is important. Get them involved in the cleanup after dinner as well…no matter how young they are.
Lazy Parenting And Lazy Kids
Lazy parenting is not uninvolved parenting, but rather about allowing your child to develop independence by mindfully stepping back and allowing your child to struggle for a moment before rescuing them. It’s all about letting your kiddo discover just how much they are capable of all on their own.
All of these factors might cause childrens to become stressed. If we wish to encourage our children, we must first discover the underlying cause of their lack of desire so that we can address the stressor.
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