Get To Know You Questions For Kids
Create better communication with your children by asking them engaging questions to get them to open up and talk with these get-to-know-you questions for kids.
When kids are younger, they seem to talk non-stop about anything and everything.
I wish this wasn’t the case. I wish that all kids just jumped into the car or ran into the house at full speed, just waiting to tell you about their day.
*Que memories of Kindergarten*
I truly believe the challenge kids face when answering a large question such as “How was your day at school?” is that the topic is too broad.
Oftentimes, when I ask my spouse how his day was at work, he will also respond with “Good” because it’s easy and requires no thought.
So how do we get our kids to open up to us about their day and let us know about bullies, insecurities, and victories?
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Asking questions is all fine and dandy, but you may not have much luck with getting kids to open up and communicate if you’re asking the wrong questions.
The right questions are not difficult to come up with, in fact, I’ve compiled a list for you to put into your positive parenting toolbox starting today.
Effective Ways To Ask Questions
Since children do ask more than 300 questions a day (according to studies) and it can get frustrating, but if you can keep an open mind, it allows kids to understand that imagination and curiosity are wonderful things.
We can encourage kids to be inquisitive by asking them questions. Your kids do mimic words and behaviours that you model and when you ask proper questions, you’re teaching them how to ask questions properly also.
It’s quite amazing how much information our kids “forget” to share with us, and it’s often because they simply don’t realize that we want to know these things.
If you create the perfect combination of words, asked at the right time of day, and in the right way, you can get your children talking about anything and everything.
I know it’s daunting, and sometimes can seem impossible, especially when dealing with the Tween stage of life, but I assure you, it’s not impossible and you CAN do it.
Here are some tips to help you ask these questions in an effective way.
- Keep questions open-ended: When a question has no right or wrong answer, children are more likely to answer it. Thought-provoking questions such as “what do you think” or “what would happen if” helps children use their creative and critical thinking skills.
- Use Question Starters: Using question starters can get conversations flowing just by creating a prompt for your child to start talking. Examples of question starters could be ” what would happen if..” or “How many times can you…”.
- Encourage Elaboration: when your child tells you something, encourage them to tell you more about that thing by asking follow up questions such as “how did you feel when that happened” or “wow, that’s really cool, and what happened next”
- Document Answers: It’s not a terrible idea to document the answers your children give you, whether they can read them of not. Seeing you document their thoughts can be encouraging for them and shows them that you really care about what they have to say. And how much fun is it to look back on these answers years from now?
- Avoid Closed-Ended Questions: Questions that can be answered in one word or a sort sentence should be avoided because your child will use that as an opportunity to use a short answer.
- Accept Answers: Although sometimes your child’s answer is “boring” you should still accept that answer and feel excited about it because when you show that you are not interested in what they have to say, next time they will share less and less and then they will stop sharing altogether.
Now you have some tools to go beyond “how was your day” and get into deep and meaningful conversations to get to know your kids in all stages of life.
Fun Questions to Ask Your Children
Kids, especially adolescents, require you to find the proper combination of words to ask in order for them to open up and express their feelings. It’s similar to solving a puzzle at the conclusion of a level in a video game.
I’m not sure why this is the case, but it appears to be the case for the majority of parents. If it isn’t, you’ve most likely already broken the code!
Here are some entertaining questions to ask your children at various times of the day. For example, after school, after a party, sleepover, or play date, after church service, and just plain fun things to ask whenever you want to start the discussion going and get to know your child’s heart.
You’d be amazed how much can happen in a day, and our children don’t always know how to express their worries, successes, and questions. That is why these questions are so beneficial!
You’ll be amazed at how quickly these inquiries will start a discussion and how well you’ll get to know your developing youngster. Have a good time!
Get To Know You Questions For Kids
Questions For Toddlers
- What would your stuffed animals say if they could talk?
- How does it feel when I cuddle you?
- What would you be painting right now if you sketched everything that came to mind?
- What do you suppose you’ll dream about tonight?
- What kinds of noises do you enjoy?
- What would you do if you were stuck outside for the entire day?
- What factors contribute to the best fort?
- What ways do you believe animals communicate?
- Describe a memorable day. What are you doing to make it unique?
- What kind of animal would be an excellent driver?
- Do you enjoy it when others share with you? Why?
- Who is your favourite character from a book?
- What is one activity you do today that you require an adult for but want to attempt to accomplish on your own?
- What names would you give to everyone in your family if you were to start over?
- What brings you joy?
- What would you do if you could do anything right now?
- What would you call your pet dragon if you had one?
- What would you do as a group?
- What would you call a new Crayola colour if you could design it and name it?
Questions For School Age Kids
- Do you ever witness children being cruel to one another?
- What do the majority of the children do at recess?
- On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your day? Why?
- Who would you choose as your instructor if you could have one for a day?
- What is your favourite subject?
- What is your least favourite subject?
- Which subject is the most straightforward for you?
- What would you do if you could quit doing something throughout the school day?
- What would you change about your school day if you could?
- Do you ever feel excluded at school?
- Would you change anything in your lessons if you were the teacher?
- Is everyone in your class following the rules?
- Who do you want to make new acquaintances with who you haven’t met yet?
- Did you ever felt afraid or alone throughout the course of your day?
- Did you help someone today?
- What did you learn in class today?
- Tell me about anything that makes you feel intelligent.
- What was the most difficult project you worked on today?
- Have you begun any new projects today?
- How did today’s (project, presentation, or event) go?
- Did you have a good time today? What was the most enjoyable aspect?
- Is there anything that happened today that made you feel brave?
- Did you have a good time during lunch? Is there anything else you’d like in your lunch kit?
- Who did you spend your lunch break with?
- Did you meet any new people?
- Is there anything that made you chuckle today?
- What was the most monotonous thing?
- What is your favourite book you’ve ever read?
- What would your motto be if you had your own?
Questions For Older Kids
- What do you prefer to wonder about?
- Tell me anything about yourself that you believe I don’t know.
- What have your pals been up to lately?
- What is a happy memory for you?
- What do you want to do when you wake up?
- You’ve arrived to the beach. What is the first thing that comes to mind?
- What inspires you to be brave?
- What gives you the feeling that you are loved?
- How do you demonstrate your concern for others?
- Which charity would you donate $100 to if you could?
- What kind of treehouse would you build?
- What would you write about if you were to write a book?
- What would your clothing look like if you designed them?
- How do you like assisting people the most?
- What makes you grateful?
- What would you put inside a cave you built in the woods?
- What gives you a boost of energy?
- What kind of character would you portray if you were in a play?
- What is it about your buddies that makes them so special?
- What makes you so special?
- What are your top three plans for the summer?
- How would you stay in contact if you had buddies all across the world?
- What would your circus act be if you joined the circus?
- What would you teach your students if you were a teacher and could teach them anything?
- What would you do if a buddy asked you to keep a secret that you didn’t feel comfortable keeping?
- What would you call a new planet if you could, and what would it be like?
- What would you call yourself if you could change your name? Why?
- What would you purchase if you were handed a million dollars and had to spend it all in one week?
- What is your favourite thing to fantasise about?
- What is your greatest wish that you could make a reality?
- What have your pals been up to recently?
- How do you show someone that you care about them?
- What does it mean to express love?
- What is one destination you’d like to visit one day?
- What would you alter about your family if you could?
- What would you alter about your life if you could?
- Which rules of the world would you modify if you had the power to do so?
- Where would you want to spend your holiday if we could go right now?
- Who would you invite to dinner if you could?
- Describe the house you’d like to live in when you’re an adult.
Getting To Know You Questions For Kids
These are some pretty great conversation starters and fun getting to know you questions for kids that can get them talking and talking, hopefully. Not every day will be an epic talk fest after school. After all, school is exhausting, just like a workday can be, sometimes they need a little quiet before they are ready to talk.
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