Ideas on how you can spend important quality time with kids to foster connection and love.
Everyone tells you that time flies by when you have kids and for me, that has been proven true. It’s important to make the most out of the little time you have with young kids and savour the moments because boy, do they ever go by quickly.
Motherhood brings out the daily hustle and bustle that can get so exhausting, even the thought of binging shows on Netflix past 9 pm sometimes feel like an impossible feat.
Between all the different types of parenting styles we choose to raise our kids with, the one thing they all have in common is; your kids need to spend quality time with you. This is why the importance of quality time is so high when it comes to the bigger picture and positive outcomes.
Children need to be able to see who you are as a person and not just as their parent who makes their life go around and around.
Creating these daily connections is a great way to create memories, strong family bonds and help children learn emotional regulation skills. Sometimes quality time is a love language for children, so if you can learn to speak it and provide undivided attention, great things will come your way.
Ways to Spend Quality Time with Kids
Take A Walk
Walking is such a simple thing and important thing to do with your kids and it has so many added benefits too! Get physically active and go on an adventure around your neighbourhood, or drive over to a park after supper.
Walking is fun for the whole family and interesting too. You get to notice things about your neighbourhood and make it into a daily routine.
Walking also improved their concentration and could make them more calm and happy, perfect for just before bedtime! If you let your children navigate the walk, which promotes independence and gives them freedom.
They can stop and look at flowers and jump in puddles if they please which is not something easily done on a car ride.
Along with creating amazing memories, baking with children teaches them so many skills and it helps with perfectionist attitudes too.
The cool thing about letting them cook or bake with you is you are the one that teaches them these skills at the end of the day and that’s always something to be proud of.
Baking can be hard to incorporate into busy schedules but you can make it special family affair or add it as a new hobby to your list of quality time activities.
Eat As A Family
Family dinners should be a regular thing and it’s a simple way to incorporate family time in your daily schedule.
This is a great time to reflect on your day and catch up with each other, and can really be fun for the whole family.
Ask your kids to help with the preparation of the family meal, or at the very least help set the table.
Let them grab the condiments from the fridge and bring the drinks up to the table without your help. This will make them feel needed and important. This feeling of involvement helps provide a feeling of safety and security, leading to growing confidence as well.
All of these little things build-up to the big memories. Your kids will remember family meals as a regular thing and implement them in their own lives in adulthood.
It can be difficult to eat together on a daily basis, but if you can, try to make it as regular as possible. We like to have a family meeting on the weekend after dinner time, and it has become a very good habit that helps me keep up with the lives of all my family members.
Talk At Bedtime
If your children will tolerate it, see if you can connect with your kids before bedtime. Tucking kids in, no matter how big they are, never gets old (for mom and dad anyway).
This is because they are now in their most relaxed state and they feel safe and ready to let go of the day and drift off into the night. What an amazing opportunity to connect on a deeper level!
It is so easy to just say goodnight to our kids and shut the door as we go onto our much anticipated quiet evening, but that moment that is presented to you once a day is not one that I recommend passing up.
Instead of shutting the door with you on the outside, shut the door with you on the inside. Calm connect with your little one and let the conversation flow. It’s truly magical.
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Jokes are always good fun for the whole family! Laughter is music to parents’ ears. While it’s true, children’s jokes are generally not that funny…but that’s not really the point.
Encouraging that kind of laughter and creating these silly jokes that make no sense whatsoever are fabulous memory-making moments.
I always make a point of laughing along with my children when they say something absurd! I have boys, and if one of them says something like “farty poopy” the other one starts to howl like a hyena.
Wash The Car Together
Get out the soap and bucket and go to town washing the family car. Spend a few hours on a hot summer day and enjoy splashing water and soap all over the place as part of your meaningful time together.
While this seems like a nightmare messy situation, don’t sweat it! It’s all outside anyway and nothing a good hosing down can’t fix. Getting the kids involved in something like washing the family car can bring everyone closer together.
Clean Up Together
Have you ever walked past your child’s room and noticed how messy it was? I bet you yelled ” I thought I told you to clean this mess up!” more than a few times.
But what if I told you that saying something like “Hey buddy, your room is getting messy, would you like to clean it up together?” will transform the negative task of room cleaning regular quality time.
While you clean up together you’ll come across items that spark conversations and memories too. Enjoy these moments.
Sit Outside Together
Grab a blanket and our favorite snacks and drinks and sit outside. The calm of being outdoors can spark some magical moments.
Breathing in the fresh air and chatting about anything that pops up can create some really special moments that are hard to forget. If you can, make an outside tent, or grab some chairs and sit around a campfire too.
If your kids are young, do this often before they hit those teenage years where they won’t want your full attention anymore.
This time goes by in the blink of an eye. Spending this time now while the kids are smaller can make a big difference in what your relationship with your teen looks like in the future.
Game Night Is Fun For The Whole Family
Enjoying a board game of mousetrap or monopoly should be a weekend ordeal. Family games teach so many lessons, bring out the best smiles and really bring family members closer together.
Do you get the same satisfaction and fun when you play a game on your iPad as you would play with your family? I mean come on, nothing beats a toddler’s smile when they’re having fun. Fun games like PieFace and Toilet Trouble are a great opportunity to spark laughter and excitement.
Kick family game night up a notch and invite the extended family for a memorable time!
Play Their Games
If you have video games in your home, learn how to play them! It’s great for kids to see their parents enjoying something they like on their electronic devices.
If you ignore their passion (even if it’s video games) you might give them the impression that what they like is “stupid” and we never want our children to feel this way.
Don’t rule out imagination games either, getting back to basics to play with your toddler can be amazing for creating connections during this limited time that the kids are small.
Read some books with your kids. Whether they are their favorite novels or toddlers’ picture books, it is important to read them together. Have them read to you if they are just learning how!
Even if you don’t have much time on a daily basis, the best thing to do is make it a part of the bedtime routine to read books and connect if you don’t have enough time during the day. It’s a really simple act, but this kind of time is absolutely considered quality time with kids.
Read the stories and talk about what they mean and what kind of lessons were discussed too. These are such great and impactful connections that you can make with your kids, and it doesn’t take a lot of time at all.
Be the crazy parent who shocks their kids with a random, crazy fun pillow fight. You’ll talk about that one for ages- until the next time it happens.
While this may seem like a wild time, it is also considered quality time with kids. I’m all about the silly moments, can’t you tell?! So put down your cell phone and start a fun time out of the blue.
Although not recommended right before bedtime on a school night because you’ll never get your kids to sleep, this IS still super fun for the family way to create these quality connections, even if you’re a busy parent.
What Is Quality Time Love Language?
Quality time is one of the five love languages.
Spending quality time with your child entails focusing your attention on them. It’s the gift of being there, which communicates to a child that “you are important to me, and I enjoy spending time with you.” Because the parent or caregiver chooses to spend time alone with the child, the child feels appreciated.
When spending time with your child or children, adapting to their physical and/or emotional development will best suit their requirements.
The sheer amount of time parents spend with your child is more essential than what you do with them. When a child asks for one-on-one time with a parent, whether through play, outside activities or simply speaking, they are expressing a need to be loved which is an important part of a child’s development.
Frequently Asked Questions On Quality Time with Kids
How do you spend quality time with children?
Spending quality time with children involves your full time and attention. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time, even little moments really matter to create stronger bonds.
How much quality time should children have?
Each child and parent should spend 15 minutes of quality time together each day. Even if your schedules are busy with extracurricular activities, schedule in quality time with your kids daily.
How much quality time do parents spend with their child?
The average American family spends 120 minutes per day with their child according to research. Remember to spend quality time and not quantity time.
What is family quality time?
Family quality time is simply a time where family is together in one space, doing one simple thing. It could be as simple as watching a movie or going for a walk.
What are the benefits of spending time with family?
The benefits of spending time with family include an improvement of mental health, an improvement in relationships between parents and children, boosts of self confidence and self esteem and builds up resilience in kids.