Ideas on how you can spend important quality time with kids to foster connection and love.
Did you know that quality time with your kids has a bigger effect on your child’s social, emotional and intellectual development than how much time you spend with them?
That’s right! Studies show that the quantity of time we spend with our kids doesn’t always determine how well-adjusted they are as adults.
It’s the quality of time spent together that makes a difference to their future.
Creating these daily connections is a great way to create memories, strong family bonds and help children learn emotional regulation skills. Sometimes quality time is a love language for children, so if you can learn to speak it and provide undivided attention, great things will come your way.
How can you make sure that your child gets the most out of spending time with you?
Here are some ways you can spend quality time with your kid:
Why Quality Time is Important
Quality time with kids is important because it helps improve their relationship with you. When you spend time together, you can work towards building a stronger bond between you.
Additionally, quality time with kids helps them learn how to interact with others and gain some important social skills. Furthermore, quality time with kids can help to build your relationship with your child.
Another important reason for spending quality time with your kids is that it helps to develop your child’s sense of self-worth.
When your child feels loved and cared for, they will be more likely to respect and trust you. Therefore, spending quality time with your kids is an important part of parenting.
Finally, quality time with kids is also a good way to get things done around the house. When you have more free time and less stress, it’s easier for you to accomplish tasks like laundry or cleaning the fridge.
In summary, quality time with kids is important because it helps improve your relationship with your child and develops their sense of self-worth.
Quality Time Vs. Spending A Lot Of Time With Your Kids
Quality time is time spent with a child that is meaningful, engaging and fun. Time spent together provides an opportunity for conversations, sharing and bonding.
Quality time is better than quantity time because it provides a deeper connection with your child while also providing you with valuable information about your child’s development.
A study from the University of Michigan found that greater quality of interactions between parents and children were associated with improved language skills and increased school readiness.
Quality time also gives you a chance to practice self-regulation skills such as patience, self-control and self-control. These skills are essential for later in life when you’re faced with challenging situations or tasks.
In addition, quality time allows you to model healthy behaviors that can help your child build resiliency and adaptability later on in life.
Ways to Spend Quality Time with Kids
Help them develop new skills
There are lots of ways you can help your child develop new skills. If your child wants to try a new sport, sign them up for a league and go to their games.
If they want to try a new musical instrument, buy them one and show them how to use it. If they want to learn a new language, buy them a language-learning CD or sign them up to a language-learning website. Examples of other skills you can help your child develop include cooking, gardening or carpentry.
When you help your child develop new skills, you’re giving them a great gift. You’re helping them to grow as a person and work on their strengths. When you help your child develop new skills, you’re also spending quality time with them and showing them that you believe in them.
Take A Walk
Walking is such a simple thing and important thing to do with your kids and it has so many added benefits too! Get physically active and go on an adventure around your neighbourhood, or drive over to a park after supper.
Walking is fun for the whole family and interesting too. You get to notice things about your neighbourhood and make it into a daily routine.
Walking also improved their concentration and could make them more calm and happy, perfect for just before bedtime! If you let your children navigate the walk, which promotes independence and gives them freedom.
They can stop and look at flowers and jump in puddles if they please which is not something easily done on a car ride.
Along with creating amazing memories, baking with children teaches them so many skills and it helps with perfectionist attitudes too.
The cool thing about letting them cook or bake with you is you are the one that teaches them these skills at the end of the day and that’s always something to be proud of.
Baking can be hard to incorporate into busy schedules but you can make it special family affair or add it as a new hobby to your list of quality time activities.
Eat As A Family
Family dinners should be a regular thing and it’s a simple way to incorporate family time in your daily schedule.
This is a great time to reflect on your day and catch up with each other, and can really be fun for the whole family.
Ask your kids to help with the preparation of the family meal, or at the very least help set the table.
Let them grab the condiments from the fridge and bring the drinks up to the table without your help. This will make them feel needed and important. This feeling of involvement helps provide a feeling of safety and security, leading to growing confidence as well.
All of these little things build-up to the big memories. Your kids will remember family meals as a regular thing and implement them in their own lives in adulthood.
It can be difficult to eat together on a daily basis, but if you can, try to make it as regular as possible. We like to have a family meeting on the weekend after dinner time, and it has become a very good habit that helps me keep up with the lives of all my family members.
Talk At Bedtime
If your children will tolerate it, see if you can connect with your kids before bedtime. Tucking kids in, no matter how big they are, never gets old (for mom and dad anyway).
This is because they are now in their most relaxed state and they feel safe and ready to let go of the day and drift off into the night. What an amazing opportunity to connect on a deeper level!
It is so easy to just say goodnight to our kids and shut the door as we go onto our much anticipated quiet evening, but that moment that is presented to you once a day is not one that I recommend passing up.
Instead of shutting the door with you on the outside, shut the door with you on the inside. Calm connect with your little one and let the conversation flow. It’s truly magical.
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Help them understand their feelings and manage their emotions
As kids grow, they begin to develop new emotions and learn how to manage them. Although we would like to think that we can shield our kids from all the sadness and anxiety that life brings, we can’t.
Kids will experience loss, disappointment and frustration from time to time. When that happens, it’s important that they know how to handle their emotions.
When you spend time with your child, you can use the opportunity to help them understand their emotions and learn how to manage them. If your child is experiencing a difficult emotion like frustration, anger or sadness, you can use the time to help them identify what they are feeling and develop a strategy for managing their emotions.
You can also buy a reflective journal or mood journal for your child. This gives them a place to write down their thoughts and feelings. It’s a great way for them to process their emotions and think through their thoughts.
Jokes are always good fun for the whole family! Laughter is music to parents’ ears. While it’s true, children’s jokes are generally not that funny…but that’s not really the point.
Encouraging that kind of laughter and creating these silly jokes that make no sense whatsoever are fabulous memory-making moments.
I always make a point of laughing along with my children when they say something absurd! I have boys, and if one of them says something like “farty poopy” the other one starts to howl like a hyena.
Wash The Car Together
Get out the soap and bucket and go to town washing the family car. Spend a few hours on a hot summer day and enjoy splashing water and soap all over the place as part of your meaningful time together.
While this seems like a nightmare messy situation, don’t sweat it! It’s all outside anyway and nothing a good hosing down can’t fix. Getting the kids involved in something like washing the family car can bring everyone closer together.
Clean Up Together
Have you ever walked past your child’s room and noticed how messy it was? I bet you yelled ” I thought I told you to clean this mess up!” more than a few times.
But what if I told you that saying something like “Hey buddy, your room is getting messy, would you like to clean it up together?” will transform the negative task of room cleaning regular quality time.
While you clean up together you’ll come across items that spark conversations and memories too. Enjoy these moments.
Sit Outside Together
Grab a blanket and our favorite snacks and drinks and sit outside. The calm of being outdoors can spark some magical moments.
Breathing in the fresh air and chatting about anything that pops up can create some really special moments that are hard to forget. If you can, make an outside tent, or grab some chairs and sit around a campfire too.
If your kids are young, do this often before they hit those teenage years where they won’t want your full attention anymore.
This time goes by in the blink of an eye. Spending this time now while the kids are smaller can make a big difference in what your relationship with your teen looks like in the future.
Game Night Is Fun For The Whole Family
Enjoying a board game of mousetrap or monopoly should be a weekend ordeal. Family games teach so many lessons, bring out the best smiles and really bring family members closer together.
Do you get the same satisfaction and fun when you play a game on your iPad as you would play with your family? I mean come on, nothing beats a toddler’s smile when they’re having fun. Fun games like PieFace and Toilet Trouble are a great opportunity to spark laughter and excitement.
Kick family game night up a notch and invite the extended family for a memorable time!
Be present and attentive when you’re together.
This may sound obvious, but kids are very perceptive. They can tell when their parents are distracted and not fully present when they’re with them. If you’re busy scrolling through your phone or looking at your laptop, your child will feel that you don’t have the time for them. Instead, set your phone to airplane mode, so you’re not tempted to check your messages or social media throughout the day.
Take them to participate in sports and other activities they enjoy
If your child has a passion, make sure you take them to participate in it as often as possible. Take them to watch their favourite team play or take them to the park to play their sport. This will allow them to learn new skills and meet new people. It’ll also give them a sense of belonging and purpose that will help them grow and excel. If your child has a passion for something, but you’re not sure how to make it happen, ask the experts. Organizations like Little League, 4H, sports teams, and community groups often host events where parents can ask questions and get helpful tips.
Talk About Your Child’s Interests
Try to find common interests between you and your child and then talk about them. You can discuss sports, movies, music, or even their schoolwork.
This not only shows that you’re interested in what interests them, but it also gives you a chance to guide them and steer them in the right direction. You never know, you might just discover a new hobby or interest that you have in common.
Surprise Them With Random Acts of Kindness
As kids grow older, they start to realize that the world isn’t all rainbows and butterflies.
They start to see the cruelty and ugliness of the world. This can cause them to lose hope and become more cynical and pessimistic. You can help restore their faith and optimism in the world by doing small, random acts of kindness.
You can do this with your child or on your own. You can leave a quarter or a dollar coin in a vending machine that’s out of order to make someone’s day. You can also leave a positive message in a notebook, coffee shop chalkboard, or on social media.
Play Their Games
If you have video games in your home, learn how to play them! It’s great for kids to see their parents enjoying something they like on their electronic devices.
If you ignore their passion (even if it’s video games) you might give them the impression that what they like is “stupid” and we never want our children to feel this way.
Don’t rule out imagination games either, getting back to basics to play with your toddler can be amazing for creating connections during this limited time that the kids are small.
Read some books with your kids. Whether they are their favorite novels or toddlers’ picture books, it is important to read them together. Have them read to you if they are just learning how!
Even if you don’t have much time on a daily basis, the best thing to do is make it a part of the bedtime routine to read books and connect if you don’t have enough time during the day. It’s a really simple act, but this kind of time is absolutely considered quality time with kids.
Read the stories and talk about what they mean and what kind of lessons were discussed too. These are such great and impactful connections that you can make with your kids, and it doesn’t take a lot of time at all.
Be the crazy parent who shocks their kids with a random, crazy fun pillow fight. You’ll talk about that one for ages- until the next time it happens.
While this may seem like a wild time, it is also considered quality time with kids. I’m all about the silly moments, can’t you tell?! So put down your cell phone and start a fun time out of the blue.
Although not recommended right before bedtime on a school night because you’ll never get your kids to sleep, this IS still super fun for the family way to create these quality connections, even if you’re a busy parent.
What Is Quality Time Love Language?
Quality time is one of the five love languages.
Spending quality time with your child entails focusing your attention on them. It’s the gift of being there, which communicates to a child that “you are important to me, and I enjoy spending time with you.” Because the parent or caregiver chooses to spend time alone with the child, the child feels appreciated.
When spending time with your child or children, adapting to their physical and/or emotional development will best suit their requirements.
The sheer amount of time parents spend with your child is more essential than what you do with them. When a child asks for one-on-one time with a parent, whether through play, outside activities or simply speaking, they are expressing a need to be loved which is an important part of a child’s development.
Frequently Asked Questions On Quality Time with Kids
How do you spend quality time with children?
Spending quality time with children involves your full time and attention. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time, even little moments really matter to create stronger bonds.
How much quality time should children have?
Each child and parent should spend 15 minutes of quality time together each day. Even if your schedules are busy with extracurricular activities, schedule in quality time with your kids daily.
How much quality time do parents spend with their child?
The average American family spends 120 minutes per day with their child according to research. Remember to spend quality time and not quantity time.
What is family quality time?
Family quality time is simply a time where family is together in one space, doing one simple thing. It could be as simple as watching a movie or going for a walk.
What are the benefits of spending time with family?
The benefits of spending time with family include an improvement of mental health, an improvement in relationships between parents and children, boosts of self confidence and self esteem and builds up resilience in kids.
When you spend time with your child, you’re giving them something that money can’t buy. You’re giving them your undivided attention and showing them that they are important to you.
You’re also helping them to develop important social and emotional skills that will help them succeed in life. There are lots of creative ways that you can spend time with your child. All you have to do is open yourself up to new experiences and make the time you spend with your child meaningful.