Kids Books About Sibling Rivalry
Sibling rivalry can wreak havoc on family time. Constant squabbling or unrelenting competitiveness could be quite taxing on parents’ nerves. Yes, there are parenting techniques for dealing with sibling rivalry, but a more subtle approach is sometimes necessary as well. Like cuddling up with sibling rivalry tale books and seeing where the discussion takes you. Using children’s books to address sibling rivalry encourages childrens to think more deeply and independently about relationships, how others feel, and how to control their emotions.
No one ever claimed, “My kids get along great and never quarrel!” Summer could be filled with beautiful family moments, but all of that time together can also lead to some major sibling rivalry. We’ve recently sought assistance from bibliotherapy.
Fortunately, we’ve discovered several fantastic pieces of literature on the subject. You won’t want to miss these exceptional stories, which are jam-packed with kid appeal and essential lessons that are ideal for kicking off critical talks about how our actions influence others and what we can do to make up for our mistakes.
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Children’s Books On Sibling Rivalry
Violet and Victor are identical twins who decide to create a book. As the novel progresses, we observe their various personalities, abilities, and talents, as well as their changes between sibling conflict and cooperation. In this lovely story about how working together yields the best results, both characters’ voices are heard (pay attention to the color of the text to determine who is speaking!). Alice Kuipers wrote The Best Bookworm Book Ever. (3-6yrs)
Miles becomes angry when his younger brother unintentionally smashes one of his favourite toys. His cheeks flame, his fists tighten, and he yells at his brother. Miles notices himself in the mirror after his younger brother has left the room in tears. He is no longer Miles, but a huge red monster that represents how Miles feels when he is angry. The Monster makes a few ideas to help him relax. As Miles begins to communicate about his anger, the monster shrinks and Miles feels better. He understands the damaged toy was an accident and encourages his brother to assist him in repairing it. Arguing over a toy is a common scenario for many childrens, and this book is sure to hit a chord with many. My own children identified with Miles, and the tale provided an opportunity for us to discuss better methods to communicate with one another when we are upset or angry. This book is part of The Mother Company’s series focused on helping children develop social and emotional skills. I’m excited to read their other stories. Samantha Kurtzman-Counter and Abbie Schiller, When Miles Got Mad, 2013. (Ages 3 and up)
I like this beautifully drawn and expertly written story of sibling rivalry. Maple and Willow are closest friends and sisters. The narrative follows them on their excursions until they have a dispute that results in some harsh words, tears, and, eventually, forgiveness. My son had me read this book over and over. He and his sister are extremely close, and I believe he enjoyed the notion that even though Willow and Maple do everything together, they may have the odd earth-shattering dispute, but they can always make up in the end. Maple and Willow Together is written by Lori Nichols, 2014 (3+)
Kindness Grows uses poetic, rhyming language to illustrate how painful deeds can cause distance between individuals, but good acts can grow into something lovely. Die-cuts are wonderfully combined to show the expanding fracture caused by upsetting acts, juxtaposed against a beautiful tree emerging from loving activities. What distinguishes this book is how the magnificent images clearly show to childrens the divide that unkindness causes and, conversely, how kindness can bring us together. Britta Teckentrup (Suitable for children aged 3 and up)
This novel truly touches home for me because I grew up with an older brother (and currently live in a family where I am significantly outnumbered in terms of gender). Sure, it relies on stereotypes (boys are shown as filthy and stinky), but the lesson of the narrative is sound: if we look closely, we can find the worth in everyone. Would this be a good one if you have a girl who is having trouble connecting with her brother? Daniel Baxter wrote I Don’t Like Living With Brothers. (3-6yrs)
I’m a big admirer of Rachel Bright’s works, and this one is really good. The rhyming language is simple to read aloud yet rich in content, and the pictures (by Jim Field) are charming and humorous without being cloying. It’s a basic story about learning to share that’s also hilarious and appropriate for very young children. There will be many discussions about those crazy squirrels! Rachel Bright’s The Squirrels Who Squabble (1-5yrs).
I Used To Be Famous is a brilliant and endearing twist on sibling rivalry stories. A little girl called Kiely takes on the image of a celebrity, riffing on the concept of parents as paparazzi and personal cooks. Her stardom appears to be brief, though, as her cute little sister steals the show. Fortunately, Kiely learns she enjoys her new position as big sister and is thrilled to have a co-star. Tara Luebbe and Becky Cattie’s I Used To Be Famous, illustrated by Joanne Lew-Vriethoff, 2019. (Suitable for children aged 3 and up)
The pictures are what make this book! It’s a simple story: two turtles discover a hat and must figure out how to share it. However, the complexity and potential in the pictures are fascinating, making it a book to linger over and discuss rather than read straight through. (The expressions on those turtles’ faces are full of amusement for the adult reader as well!) We Found A Hat by Jon Klassen is the third book in a trilogy that also includes I Want My Hat Back and This Is Not My Hat. (3-7yrs)
Bella was given a lovely new baby blanket after she was born. The blanket follows her everywhere she goes as she develops. Even though it’s coated in paint and muck, it’s still her most cherished item. When her new baby brother grows attached to her blanket, she is forced to make a difficult choice. Instead of taking her blanket, she engages her brother and his new baby blanket in her mud and art activities. Soon, the baby’s blanket will be as filthy and stinky as hers, allowing them to each have their own personal blanket loaded with memories. Bella is a wonderful sister who adores her brother. When confronted with a quandary, she comes up with a thoughtful solution that makes them both pleased. Bella and her brother show how much fun siblings can have together. This is an excellent option for families with a new infant or childrens who have sibling rivalry. (Suitable for children aged 3 and up)
Katie is a big sister who occasionally loses her cool with her younger brother. Especially when he interferes with her belongings. Rachel Vail’s Sometimes I’m Bombaloo examines the angry feelings that children might have in sibling relationships, as well as strategies for calming themselves down. It is wonderfully non-judgmental, which is ideal for an older sibling who is having to control their displeasure with a younger child who doesn’t know any better. (3-8yrs)
Two brothers who were formerly at odds go to fight over a shattered cookie jar. To complete their creative picture of “brobarians,” the hyperactive brothers individually wear household objects. This is a hysterical look at sibling rivalry. The over-the-top narrative makes this book a lot of fun to read aloud, which worked out nicely for me because my kid requested that I read it to him every night. Lindsay Ward’s Brobarians, 2017. (Suitable for children aged 4 and up)
Zoe’s Room by Bethanie Murguia appears to be only available in hardcover, so it’s a bit pricey. However, if sharing a room is a concern, this could be the book for you. Queen Zoe is irritated by having to share her bedroom kingdom with her younger sister. Things do not go well until Zoe realizes the benefits of having her younger sister around. There are also follow-up books if Queen Zoe hits a chord with you. Beautiful drawings! (4-7yrs)
Dragon Was Terrible by Kelly DiPucchio is not about siblings in particular. However, Dragon’s outlandish behaviour is reminiscent of a younger sister (he scribbles in books, burps in church, and steals sweets). The lesson of the story is to look behind someone’s behaviour and attempt to understand why they act the way they do (which is not always obvious). It is about avoiding knee-jerk responses and viewing the world through the eyes of someone else. A wonderful way to start a discussion. It’s also really amusing! (4-7yrs)
Natalie likes spending time with her younger brother, Alphonse, but he may get on her nerves at times. When Natalie is having a particularly bad day, she discovers Alphonse devouring her favourite book. She shouts at him and then seeks to relax in a bubble bath after creating a picture to express her displeasure. When she hears a noise outside the door, she suspects Alphonse has been injured. When she goes to check on him, she learns that the noise was caused by him attempting to repair her book. They both apologize and celebrate their restored relationship by sketching drawings together in the end. Daisy Hirst’s 2016 novel Alphonse That Is Not OK To Do (Ages 4 and up)
Tamera Will Wissinger’s Gone Fishing is a little unusual. It is written in poetry and alternates between the views of two separate characters – older brother Sam and his annoying younger sister Lucy. Sam is irritated that Lucy has decided to accompany him on his fishing excursion with Dad. You might use this book to start talks about sibling rivalry, poetry, families, or fishing! It’s sweet and hilarious, with wonderful descriptions. Excellent for those who enjoy reading aloud and/or poetry. (4-9yrs)
The Pain and the Great One by Judy Blume is a must-read for somewhat older children who can’t stop teasing each other and vying for dominance. An 8-year-old girl and her 6-year-old brother take turns describing each other (their nicknames for each other are “the agony” and “the great one”). Their sibling rivalry is played out in a funny and very genuine narrative, and this is the first book in a series, so if the kids enjoy it, there is a full boxset available! If that isn’t enough, Judy Blume’s Superfudge has sibling rivalry themes. (6-10yrs)
Books For Parents About Sibling Rivalry
Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Teach Your Children to Live Together So You Can Live. This team created a reputation for themselves with their first book, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, and followed it up with this really useful and engaging book. It’s a chock-full of techniques you can use right away to help your children build healthy relationships while reducing conflict and competitiveness. I really like how they discuss how to be fair without being completely equal. Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish’s work.
Dr. Markham’s writings all emphasize the emotional link between parents and children, and this book is no exception — she provides practical methods for connecting with many children in order to establish a loving family culture in which conflict amongst siblings is unnecessary. And the interpersonal skills she teaches will assist your child not only as a sister, but also in adult love relationships, at work and school, and ultimately as a parent.
Of course, you want your child to be kind and sensitive, but when you’re in the trenches, it could be quite tough to figure out what causes that behaviour. Shumaker assists you in determining what truly works for parenting children who can get along and care for others, as well as which “laws” you may just disregard. This novel is a breath of fresh air!
I like this book because it views sibling rivalry as part of a larger family context, rather than as a separate entity, and provides many suggestions and methods for strengthening all family ties, which naturally leads to less sibling conflict. There are also suggestions for dealing with common sibling difficulties, which is really helpful.
Brothers’ relationships have always been complex, with several chances for good or strife. This book provides suggestions for developing a family team in which brothers work together from infancy, as well as for adults to identify and mend their personal relationships with their brothers in order to produce additional generations of siblings who love and respect each other. If you have sons, this is a book you should read right away.
With a brother and sister combo who struggle to get along due to their extremely different personalities and skills, this juvenile fiction book launched the immensely famous Lemonade War series. When they dare one other to see who can sell the most lemonade, the competition becomes greater than they could have expected.