The children of today are growing up in new territory.
According to research, a decrease in children’s outside play is causing a plethora of behavioral issues owing to a lack of sensory input. We are doing more harm than good by continuously putting kids in front of technology, restricting their movement, and reducing their time to play.
Sandboxes are a fantastic open-ended toy that your children will enjoy for years!
While the exact cause is unknown – further research is needed – I believe it is reasonable to assume that technology is playing a key role.
According to a 2015 national survey, 18 percent of high school students had experienced suicidal thoughts (the rate in the current study, which covered children as young as 11), and it is believed that two-thirds of teenagers who have suicidal thoughts do not seek help.
We are forgetting one thing as we continue to prioritize over-scheduled lives, fancy technologies, and material stuff galore:
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Getting Back To Parenting Basics nad Fundementals
Over the years, it took a lot of effort to break free from computer habits. I needed to shift my focus away from overwhelm and toward family, connection, and being fully present.
Today’s parents are going through a true and serious hardship.
I can assure you that I understand it isn’t easy, which is why I began with simple everyday items to assist me in shifting.
You Do Not Have To Do Everything
I was certain I needed to do all of the tasks. I didn’t do it. I was confident that I could keep my head above water while balancing everything at once. I couldn’t do it. It wasn’t until I stopped believing that I had to do and be everything that I was able to start decluttering my life and focusing on my family.
Focus On Family Time
Weekends spent with your children catching frogs, hiking, or sledding down the hill. These are the moments that mean the most. A hectic schedule of sports and activities was robbing family time and hindering the development of family relationships.
Forget Extra Stuff
If the answer isn’t a resounding yes, it’s a resounding no. Does it really matter about the party favours, Pinterest-perfect birthday celebrations, and matching school outfits? Will your children remember it?
Connect With Your Family
Implement Family Dinners
Family dinners are a lovely, but under-utilized, tool. This is an excellent opportunity to engage with your children and inquire about their days. Grab a set of conversation starters for kids or make it into a fun game of I Spy or 20 Questions if you’re at a loss for what to say.
Make Family Outings Simple
I honestly believe my parents did not leave their home state till they graduated from high school. It simply wasn’t a top priority. Families did not go into debt or work 50 hours a week in order to have one week of bliss. Vacations are fantastic, but a weekend spent camping will be just as memorable as a week at Disney World.
Read With The Children
The time you spend cuddling with your children and watching them grow engaged in a storey you’ve read them establishes a stronger bond. Aside from the sentimental value, an increasing number of studies show that reading aloud with a parent is good to children’s brain development.
Connect Before Bed
Isn’t it true that kids prefer to open up their emotions right before bedtime? They don’t say anything till their head hits the pillow at the end of the day. Then, out of nowhere, they want to tell you everything. Take it in stride. This is an excellent opportunity to connect with your children.
Here are some suggested questions:
What did you like the most about your day?
What part of your day did you find the least enjoyable?
Do you have any follow-up questions regarding your day?
What kind of love and kindness did you show today?
Prioritize Your To-Do List
It wasn’t until I began to address my overwhelm that I was able to stop using technology as a method to turn off the radio and start being completely present in the everyday moments — throughout the day.
I quit doing things that didn’t important at all. I gave up almost everything that didn’t help me achieve my objective of creating a close-knit family.
We began to make space for doing nothing, jumping rope, playing board games, wrestling, tree climbing, and hugs as our desire for TV and tablets faded.
I relinquished control.
And once I did, I was finally able to feel happy about parenthood again.
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