Want to know how to be a happy mom? Here are 10 things that moms who are happy do on a regular basis to keep up the spirits.
I wake up every morning and do the same thing. Feed the kids, get myself dressed, do some laundry, a few dishes, feed the dog and send a child off to school with a fresh lunch and a smile.
Then I take care of my other kids that are left at home, and before I know it it’s bedtime, and I’ll be doing the same thing tomorrow too.
For a while there, that “routine” started to seem mundane…and depressing.
So how did I get our of this mom funk?
I changed my mindset. I GET to do all these wonderful things for my beautiful family. Instead of I HAVE to. It’s a powerful word change, and it’s easier than you’d think!
Besides this simple mind shift there are a few other things you can do to get yourself out of the mundane mood and back to enjoying motherhood again (or for the first time!) I’m not judging.
Sometimes I get so busy with all of the requirements of mom life that I forget that at the end of a long day, the most important thing I can provide for my kids is my love affection and happiness, and not a perfect parent. It’s that healthy balance of getting enough sleep, balancing screen time, and running the daily home life that makes for the happiest moms.
So how do we go from an overwhelmed mom to a mom that has healthy habits and thinks about family life in a positive way? Here are 10 things you can implement into your daily routine and become a happy mom even in tough times.
Why It’s Important To Be A Happy Mom
We all know that motherhood can be an amazing experience.
It makes you feel as if your heart is about to explode with excitement and happiness. “I wub you, mama,” your toddler exclaims as she wraps her plump arms around you.
Or when you’re overcome with love and thankfulness for your children and your life when you watch your child’s first soccer game or dancing recital.
While it’s tough to remain joyful all of the time, I’ve discovered that mothers are the home’s mood thermometers. Families with happy mothers have happy children.
10 Things You Can Do Daily To Be Happier In Motherhood
Please note that its not possible to be happy 100% of the time. We aren’t robots. But there are some things we can do in our daily lives to make the world a little brighter and have more happy moments.
I absolutely loved to read this book: Find Your Recipe for Happiness in the Chaos of Parenting Life and it helped me change my own mindset about being a happier parent and a happier person in general.
For a shorter explanation on how to be a happy mom, here is a list of things that you can do if you are facing hard times and aren’t feeling like the best mom.
Wake Up Before The Kids
Nothing has altered my life as a mother more than waking up before my children and taking time for myself every morning. I became happier, accomplished more each day, and felt as if I had more time. It was as if my fairy godmother had waved a magical wand over the entirety of my existence.
Take time for yourself first thing in the morning, whether you exercise, read, meditate, pray, or make your to-do list. Filling your own cup first thing in the morning allows you to help others. You’ll notice the difference even if you just get up a few minutes earlier.
Tidy Up Your Room, Make The Bed And Let Light In
To be honest, I used to believe that making my bed was entirely meaningless. But I was completely incorrect.
Making my bed became a beautiful jolt of joy and success for me after I included it into my daily routine. I can always glance at my nicely made bed and experience a feeling of comfort and order in the middle of my everyday pandemonium as my children go about their day as agents of devastation.
Plus, there’s something about getting into a freshly made bed at the end of the day that just feels better.
While we all want to look beautiful and fit (hey, we’re human! ), the other advantages of exercise may be more useful for parents. Exercise improves your mood, enhances your energy and attention, and aids in better sleep. What mother wouldn’t benefit from having more of all of those things?
Even if you can just do 15 minutes (and everyone can do at least that), completing 15 minutes of exercise every day will result in significant results. You’ll not only be a joyful mother, but also a productive and healthy one.
Take A Phone Break
We are no longer engaged with the world outside of our phones when we are on them. Isn’t it true that we all need a break? As a result, we check one app on our phone while ignoring everything else.
As a result, we’ve lost touch with our children.
They act out because they want to connect with us. That’s how they know they’ll be able to pull us off our phones and back into the real world. It’s much easier to create special connections and make for happy kids when you put down your cell phone.
But don’t get me wrong: I’m not a snob. Smartphones, in my opinion, are not the destruction of civilizations. Smartphones may make life easier and more productive.
Hug Your Spouse
It’s all too easy to feel distant from your lover after a long day apart from each other.
In fact, by the time my spouse gets home, I’m generally tired and in survival mode and overwhelmed with the day’s events and feel like a bad mom.
But then I learned about how hugs affect our bodies physiologically: they may help you relax, strengthen your connection, and improve your mood. Hugging releases the hormone oxytocin, which promotes emotions of trust and relaxation.
Giving my husband a hug sometime in the evening can make my hectic day disappear off my shoulders and give me a sense of relief. It can lift my bad mood and make me a happier mom overall.
Connect With Each Child With Hugs
I can practically feel the strain leave my children’s bodies when I cuddle and hug them. More snuggles have resulted in less tantrums in our house, in addition to strengthening essential bonds with my children.
Give each child at least a few minutes of snuggles and undivided attention, no matter how hectic your day is. Snuggling will strengthen your bond with your child and make everyone happy.
Pick Your Battles
Make sure you select the correct topics to focus on with your spouse and children. Make sure you’re selecting the proper battles and letting the rest go, whether you’re fighting over mismatched clothing, untidy hair, toilet training, or a finicky child.
Create A Bedtime Routine For Yourself
While binge-watching Netflix and eating cookies sounds like a good idea, it’s not the greatest way to get a good night’s sleep or truly relax. Instead, I’ve discovered that creating a peaceful nighttime routine and sticking to it has helped me reduce stress and sleep better.
Here are a few suggestions:
soak in a hot tub while reading a book or keeping a notebook
Gratitude is a fantastic mood enhancer. And no matter how bad your day or life is, you can’t help but feel warm fuzzies when you dig deep to find the things you’re grateful for.
Keep a gratitude journal and share it with your spouse or children. Pray or meditate with gratitude at the forefront of your mind.
Focus On Getting Sleep
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve given up sleep to clean my home. Because cleaning my house when my kids are awake is like brushing my teeth and eating Oreos at the same time.
But you’re aware of what I’ve discovered? A tidy house is far less vital than a good night’s sleep. Your sleep has a direct impact on your mood, vitality, health, and interpersonal interactions. Furthermore, sleep deprivation may be quite dangerous: every day, sleep-deprived drivers cause fatalities.
When it boils down to it, a happy household means mom getting enough sleep.
Find Your Recipe For Happiness In The Chaos Of Parenting Life Book
I can’t say enough good things about this book by Kelly Holmes who is also the author of a popular parenting blog called happy you happy family.
This book is a great way to get into a new mindset about parenting and can help you start to enjoy motherhood once again.
There’s even a workbook to help you find your peace within you!
“An entertaining and extremely helpful resource for parents trying to find their balance in hectic circumstances.”
Habits Of A Happy Mom Bottom Line
I hope that this article was helpful to you. The most important thing that I hope you take away from this is that your child just wants a happy mother, not a super laundry folding machine or a perfect housekeeper. Just a mom who shares amazing experiences and loves her kids through the most epic tantrum.
Personally, working from home on my little blog is one thing I do for myself that’s stress free and helps me out of my mom funk and helps me create a happy home.
So go give lots of hugs, smiles and love to those kids of yours, that’s all they really want from their beautiful, wonderful mommy.
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