Have you ever wondered, as a mother of small children, if it is feasible to teach your toddler patience? This will be extremely beneficial to first-time mothers in the years to come. Don’t worry, if you’re a mother-of-a-few who needs to impart this lesson, you’re also covered. Remember that developing patience takes time and discipline not only for them, but also for you.
Children are born knowing exactly what they want and when they want it. We have no idea. As an impatient adult, I realised it was critical to instil as much patience in my children as possible so they did not become as frustrated as I did. Learning to deal with frustration is a fundamental life skill, and there is no better time to begin than now.
The greatest way to accomplish this is to teach your children to wait from an early age. Not waiting to “teach them a lesson,” but just allowing them to discover that they cannot have everything right away. If they learn to wait as calmly as they can while they are young, they will be far better prepared to deal with it as adults. Let’s be honest. Your life will be easier at home.
There are numerous approaches to this. Having the mindset that “patience is a virtue” from the start will help you develop a loose strategy for raising a child you love being around. Children who are patient make better company because they do not whine.
How To Teach Your Toddler Patience
Start With The Highchair
Just fact they devoured their spaghetti in a record-breaking 57 seconds does not justify them. While you may not require them to sit for the entire 45 minutes that you do while sipping your wine, a usual length of roughly 30 minutes is sufficient.
If the child understands that they cannot leave the table simply because they inhale their food, they will eat more slowly and will be more willing to interact with you as they grow older.
If they have been doing this since Day 1 (of being at the table with you), there will be no need to “punish” them; it will simply be a way of life in your family.
Utilize Snack Times
Parents, particularly those in North America, enjoy snacks. They love to buy them and give them to their children everywhere they go, from church to the grocery store to the automobile, just to keep them calm. This practise can quickly backfire.
The more you do the “keep them happy” dance, the less they will be able to deal with natural things like waiting. Give your children a complete breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
If they want a snack or two in between meals, give them a specific time and amount of food. You can be confident they will make it till the next meal if they have had a full meal.
Another advantage is that if your child is hungry enough at a meal, he or she will eat whatever you prepare. I know the “eat 6 tiny meals” craze is popular right now, and if you’re ready to feed your child 6 times a day, go ahead. Best of luck with it.
In any case, don’t fill them with sugar or salt only to keep them entertained.
Don’t Be there Entertainment All the Time
To children, everything is exciting and novel. Grasshoppers, clouds viewed from the backseat, or a diet coke can (empty, okay?) will keep you entertained for far longer than you might expect. Children that are constantly hovered over will become quickly bored. “Boring people get bored,” as a wise woman once said. Work on this now if you don’t want your child to grow up boring.
Allow them to sit in the rear seat and gaze out the window. Bring books or toys if you’re going for a stroller walk or shopping, but only bring them out if the youngster truly needs to be pacified.
Allow them to look around. Allow children to discover things that interest them on their own. If it is convenient, involve them in what you are doing. If your youngster can busy themselves, you will be able to converse with others while they wait for you.
They will behave well since they are accustomed to waiting.
Have A Signal
They know they must wait till you answer if they signal you and you return it. You are discussing with an adult when your son approaches and pulls your pinkie (for example). You answer in kind, finish your thought, and then devote your full attention to your child.
Teaching kids to wait a few mississippis will instil patience and etiquette in them. It is inconvenient for you to have a youngster hanging from your leg, and it is also inconvenient for the other person. They’re not sure whether to continue talking, wait, or assume you’re not interested because you’re not paying attention. I’ve been there. Didn’t you?
It’s Important To Teach them Young
These are just a few instances of how you can teach your children patience. Consider adding some extra time here and there to their activities throughout the day to naturally enhance their tolerance to wait. They won’t like it, but it will benefit them in the long run.
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