It’s easy to get into the trap of believing that you “should” parent in a specific way or that you “should” be able to manage a certain problematic behavior. But, in reality, we are flawed parents doing our best with the knowledge we have. Today, I’d want to urge you to create a few “permission slips” for yourself.
Permission slips are something you’re probably acquainted with if you have a child in school. Those pieces of paper that grant you permission for your children to visit the local fire station or go to the zoo.
Those are fantastic, but they are not the type of permission slips I’m referring to here.
These are your permission slips.
- Allow yourself to be yourself.
The weight of information overload is real, and it could be a hefty one to bear. Everywhere we look, we are critiqued, weighed up, measured, and assessed. We believe that our best efforts are insufficient. And our worst-case scenario is too heinous to contemplate.
There must be another option.
Why You Need To Give Yourself A Permission Slip Regularly
Most people are unaware that a culture of asking permission fosters a culture in which many people’s self-worth is tied to their ability to receive permission.
As a result, it is common for many people to carry these patterns into adulthood. The patterns I’m referring to frequently manifest themselves in your marriage, your work, and your relationships.
For example, perhaps you don’t buy yourself a new pair of shoes because you’re afraid your husband will disapprove. Or maybe you’re so focused on finishing something for your boss that you don’t go to the bathroom until your bladder is nearly full.
Of course, the most typical complaint I hear from women is that they feel guilty about taking things easy after having a kid. They wash the laundry, cook supper, clean the house, even entertain relatives!
The first thing I want you to remember is that you are here on this planet in your physical form for a reason, and it is difficult to be who you are truly intended to be if you are always seeking permission from others.
Giving yourself permission to live for the things you love is the only way you can even begin to realize your purpose and be who you are meant to be. empowerment.
Of course, living for what you love requires you to give yourself permission to let go of caring about what others think of you. You could begin to live your life’s mission once you let go of the urge for acceptance.
Permission Slips Every Parent Needs
What if, instead of concentrating on all of your flaws, you gave yourself permission to be human? Following are some examples:
Permission To Be Flawed
This is the one thing we all share. You will never be able to handle every parenting scenario flawlessly, no matter how fantastic things become. We’re aiming for growth rather than perfection here.
Permission To Experience Emotions
Emotions are a normal component of the human experience. All emotions, including anger. It’s okay to be angry, sad, wounded, annoyed, puzzled or overwhelmed. These events may teach us and help us grow.
Permission To Be Considered A Work In Progress
It’s fine if you don’t know everything right now. It is beneficial to continually learn about yourself, your children, and parenting in general. Make the best of the knowledge you have at the time.
Permission To Avoid Resolving Problems
When our children are struggling, there appears to be a lot of pressure to find the “ideal” answer or penalty. That is not the intention. Instead, concentrate on listening, being empathic, and assisting them in brainstorming.
See also: How To Spot When Your Child Is Overwhelmed And Needs Help
Permission To Set Limits
It is critical to establish healthy emotional and physical limits for yourself and your family. That may imply that you have different rules, expectations, or requirements than other parents, which is OK.
Permission To Parent Your Children In A Different Manner
You are your children’s expert. Other people’s ideas could be valid, but it doesn’t mean you have to change your parenting style unless it matches with your needs and the requirements of your unique child. If your parenting style is being judged, look inwards and decide if the parenting style you chose is right for you, if so, then ignore everyone else.
Give Yourself Permission Get Silly
Children’s language is play! If you tend to be more serious or uptight, it’s OK to let a few things go, to respond to a challenge with a joke or a song, or wrestle and roughhouse, rather than responding to everything with a strong reaction.
Allowing Yourself To Have A Terrible Day
You are not a machine. The environment around you, your work, your financial condition, your relationships, and yes, even your children, all have an impact on you. If you woke up on the wrong side of the bed, admit it and move on.
Permission To Be Restricted In What You Can Do
It’s fine if you can’t head the scout troop, bring goodies to class, organize the fundraiser, and enjoy a home-cooked supper every night. Concentrate on what is most important and let the rest go.
Permission To Spend Time Alone
Attachment parenting is sometimes misconstrued as “needing to be with your child all the time.” It’s also vital to take care of yourself! Concentrate on developing a solid, healthy relationship with your children and reuniting after time away.
Allowance To Not Know Everything
Step back and take a big breath if you feel driven to read “one more blog post” or “one more book” to discover the solution you’re looking for. Your children simply require your presence. It’s not “you with all the answers.”
Permission To Get Help
You certainly do not have to go through this parenting thing alone. You are no longer constrained by your online capabilities. You may consult with a therapist, parent coach, or doctor from the comfort of your own home.
Give Yourself Permission Too..
In case it wasn’t apparent, I’m also giving YOU permission to do all of these things, as well as whatever else you need to do to be sane. Of course, you don’t need my permission, but feel free to blame me if you receive any bad feedback while taking care of yourself for a change.