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After a long day, and the kids are finally in bed, it’s time for Mommy priorities- alone time for a stressed mom.
The expectations of society tell us that when we finally get that peace and quiet that we have been looking forward to all day long, we need to start doing all the things on our to-do list that we couldn’t finish.
No Way! Mothers are not maids. Mothers are humans, and humans need a break.
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It’s Just Gonna Have to Wait
Hey Momma, if you have a sink full of dirty dishes and a load of wet clothes in the washer, don’t stress because guess what?
IT CAN WAIT.
After a long day with the kids, you need some self-care time.
Take a break, have a kit-kat.
I mean it. Take a bath, read a book, binge some TV.
Make YOU a priority over household chores.
I can bet that just like me, you had a long day taking care of EVERYONE else around you.
Even though you may feel like you got nothing done:
If you’re a mom, you got stuff done, and you spent all day problem solving, housekeeping, driving around and more.
Your to-do list is NEVER complete, and you’re a stressed mom.
Even if you go deal with that sink of dirty dishes, and change over the wet clothes in the dryer, there are ALWAYS more tasks that will begin to take over your mind and you’re never going to be able to take that break.
If you don’t get your break, you’ll be an exhausted, and stressed mom.
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The Long Run
Thinking about my own childhood, I didn’t grow up in a perfectly clean home. I actually grew up in a very messy home, but I don’t really think about that. I have memories of my childhood that involve laughter, special events with the family and the small special daily moments between me and my parents.
When you think about your children and what you want them to remember about their childhood, what does that look like for you?
Will the dishes in the sink matter? Will the unfolded laundry matter? how about that messy closet you’ve been wanting to clean out and declutter for the past 6 months, will that matter?
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NO. No it will not.
So there is NO REASON for you to say SCREW IT to the dishes and go take a much-needed break.
Calming The Mind
As parents, the things that circle the mind are endless.
Just the day before I wrote this post the things going around and around my mind consisted of my housework to-do list for the next day, upcoming school events for the next 2 weeks, upcoming bill payments, husband work lunches, keeping my toddler busy during the day, when I will have time to walk the dogs the next day, feeding the dogs, filling the fridge, doing a pantry inventory, throwing in a load of laundry and not forgetting about it, the dirty rug in the living room that I keep forgetting to vacuum and MORE.
These are the things that go through MY MIND as I’m trying to fall asleep. No wonder I’m a tired momma, that’s just too much stuff. My mind plate is too full, and I bet yours is too.
Which is why I have said ENOUGH. I will take a break, I will eat chocolate and binge-watch This Is Us on Netflix.
I will also write down all my thoughts, in no specific order, on a piece of paper and forget about it all. This way I can quiet my mind and finally relax.
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Get Your Priorities Straight And Go From Stressed Mom To Calm And Happy Mom
I hope this was inspiring to you, Momma. I want you to take a break, calm your mind and enjoy your evening after the kids finally fall asleep.
Because those dishes CAN WAIT. I promise.
Common Causes of Stress for Mothers
Being a mom is an amazing experience, but it can also be really stressful at times. There are a bunch of things that can cause stress for moms, like not getting enough sleep, worrying about money, feeling like you have too many responsibilities, and not having enough social support. It can be hard to deal with all of these things on top of taking care of your kids, but there are ways to cope.
First up, lack of sleep is a biggie. If you’re a new mom, chances are you’re not getting much sleep, and that can mess with your mood and your ability to think straight. Money is another stressor for many moms – raising kids is expensive! If you’re struggling to make ends meet, it can be really tough.
Then there’s the overwhelming responsibilities that come with being a mom. It can feel like you’re being pulled in a million different directions, and there’s never enough time to get everything done. This can leave you feeling super stressed out and anxious.
Social isolation is another big one. When you’re at home with your kids all day, it can be tough to find time to socialize with other adults. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and depression.
Relationship problems can also be a major source of stress for moms. Whether it’s with a partner, family member, or friend, conflicts and disagreements can cause a lot of tension and anxiety.
Finally, balancing work and family can be a real challenge. Trying to meet the demands of a job while also being present for your kids is no easy feat, and it can leave you feeling totally burnt out.
The Secret to Finding Balance in Parenting
First off, it’s important to set priorities. What’s most important to you and your family? Is it spending quality time with your kids, taking care of your own well-being, or excelling in your career? Once you figure out what matters most, it’ll be easier to focus on those things and let go of what’s not as important.
Another secret to finding balance is to simplify your life. That doesn’t mean you have to give up all your hobbies or interests, but it does mean prioritizing what’s truly important and letting go of things that aren’t. Maybe that means cutting back on social media or saying “no” to some commitments that aren’t essential.
It’s also crucial to practice self-care. As a parent, it’s easy to put everyone else’s needs before your own, but that can quickly lead to burnout. Taking time for yourself, whether it’s exercising, reading a book, or just taking a long bath, is essential for your mental and physical health.
Finally, don’t be afraid to ask for help! Parenting is a team effort, and there’s no shame in asking for assistance from your partner, family members, or friends. Whether it’s getting someone to watch your kids for a few hours so you can take a break or delegating household chores, asking for help can make a huge difference.
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Way better than what I grew up with – which was A LOT of yelling, spanking and frankly, neglect.
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